Am I right or am I just being a big fat B?

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    06-10-2010, 06:37 PM
Green Broke
Am I right or am I just being a big fat B?

So, I have been at the new stable with Cin for a week. Many people have answered my questions about the "unwritten etiquette" at this I'm sure all stables have their little unwritten rules people follow. There are several places to groom/saddle horses in the barn, some cross ties, some posts..but plenty for all it's a HUGE barn. I was talking to one of the trainers about this barns etiquette for tying and she basically said if there is a cross tie or post open, you don't tie next to someone else's horse unless you know that person and you know the two horses are okay together.

So today, I am the ONLY person at the barn besides one of the trainers who is working her horse. I have Cin tied to one of the posts leaving about 4 cross ties and 2 other posts open, all within the same little area. This girl comes from outside the barn with her horse...yelling as she enters and spooks pretty much every horse in there, gives me a dirty look then ties her horse practically on top of Cinny...on the post he's tied to!!! She said absolutely NOTHING, like it's her stable or something and I had taken HER spot. I had to move Cin because he obviously was NOT fine with this girls horse next to him as he stood there with his ears back and his teeth showing doing little threat bites at her horse and picking up his hind leg as a threat.

I really had no clue what to say or do, I was shocked into a stupor that she did that. Nobody has ever done that at any of my old stables. Am I wrong and just being a B about it? It wasn't as if there was no where else to tie her horse, there was even a cross tie closer to her tack locker than that post was!

What would you have done/said if this happened with you?
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    06-10-2010, 06:45 PM
I would have let my horse beat up the other one--maybe Cinny would not have escalated that far, but Ice sure as heck would have.

Then when she got pissed that my horse is such a butthead, I told her that she had plenty of space, and its her own **** fault.
    06-10-2010, 06:47 PM
Green Broke
I guess I'm not afraid of coming across as a B****, because I would have stopped her immediately. Simply, I would have asked her why she was placing her horse there, when there were obviously more spaces available, all from a safety point of view.

Chances are there maybe another "unwritten" rule, like that particular spot was hers! LOL!

Don't be afraid to speak up. You can do it nicely if you want, but I like the direct, even toned approach, so no confusion about taking an attitude with me.

Good luck to you, there are always a few "divas" at each barn. I think you just came across one.
    06-10-2010, 07:00 PM
Green Broke
Depends on how you approach it. Next time you could try saying to her something along the lines of "Oh I wouldn't tie your horse so close, my horse can be aggressive to other horses and I would hate for your horse to be injured"

Bet she moves her horse and you don't come off looking like a 'B' at all!
    06-10-2010, 07:01 PM
What on earth was she thinking? The only thing I can think of is like Walkamile said - she probably "owns" that post (aka she always uses it, and thinks it belongs to her). You're definitely not being a big B, although you had a right to! Did you say anything before you moved Cinny?
    06-10-2010, 07:36 PM
Green Broke
No, I was more worried about getting him away...not that I cared about her horse, it's her fault, but I really don't need Cinny to get injured. I think next time I will say something. I think she is part of the stables "Pony Posse." it's a group of about 6 or 7 kids with ponys...and they think they OWN the stable. They even boss the stable hands around.

Normally I probably would have ripped her a new one, but I think because I'm new, etc etc...and I was more worried about removing Cin from the situation that I just didn't say anything.
    06-10-2010, 07:45 PM
Green Broke
The "Pony Posse"! Good lord! Kinda cute though. Just remember that you are not one of the stable hands, so don't be afraid to be an advocate for your horse's safety.

I guess I like being home with my horses. No one to deal with but myself, and no one gets into my stuff but me. Do miss some of the social moments at the barn , but even those sometimes were more dramatic than necessary.

Keep us posted , I'd love to hear how things progress at your new place.
    06-10-2010, 08:08 PM
Originally Posted by Cinnys Whinny    
What would you have done/said if this happened with you?

She was in the wrong.

I bet that was her favorite post but still you were there first.

What would I have done...well I am a bit ornery and simply would have said that my horse tends to kick strange horses and I cannot be responsible for the damage to any other horse since there is room farther down the aisle for her horse.
    06-10-2010, 09:17 PM
LOL favorite posts.. What makes one more appealing then the other? Location? Seriously..

Yeah, I'd say for the safety of all parties/horses involved, she should relocate to her second favorite post.

And also, I have a pony, would anyone like to join the Pony Posse with me? I bet Kevin has already started it for the low price of $179.99 a month (+$15 for pins).
    06-10-2010, 10:32 PM
Green Broke
Lol....yeah, it's funny. Never seen such a thing. They have their own HUGE tack room and all. They also get to go to private swimming parties and overnighters at the BO's house. If my daughter were in that, I might actually be a little creeped out.

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