Am I settling?

I found this one horse on craigslist. She is very pretty, and mostly trained. I e-mailed the seller and asked if I could see a video/more pictures, I also just asked a few questions about her. I tried my best not to sound like I was going to buy her. But know she wants me to come see the horse, and I said I was excited to go check her out. I am starting to have second thoughts though. I feel like I am settling on this horse. I mean, she's a nice horse- but pretty much the opposite of what I was looking for. One of my pet peevs is a dar colored coat; this horse is white. Plus, she bucks. I have really messed up. Now I feel awful becuase these people though I was actually going to buy her...what should I say to her?

You should have said you didn't think she would be a good fit for you to begin with. And if you really don't want to go see this horse, e-mail the seller that you aren't interested. And besides, you aren't settling on a horse just because you go and see it. You can tell her after you test ride the horse she isn't what you are looking for.

And when dealing with a seller, you need to be honest. Honest about what you want and your abilities.

That is about all I can say to help you out.

... It sounds like these people are really eager to sell this horse. Why else would THEY suggest you come out and see her?
Personally I would find the nicest way you can think of to turn them down.
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Thanks guys:) I feel so awful about thos whole situation. We just weren't reading eachother correctly. Besides..It made me a lil' suspicious that they were so eager to sell her...

You don't owe anyone anything...just email them and tell them you've thought long and hard on it and have decided to pass. That's a lot better than wasting their time in coming to look or getting pressured to buy something you don't want. There are a lot of horses out there for sale...if you are patient you can find what you want so just hold out for that!!

Ok guys..I told the lady that their was some things that needed to be resolved before we went into a purchase, and that it might not worko out. BUT I did tell her if their was a change of mind, that I would contact her. For some really odd reason there is something inside we telling me to go look at this horse. Should I take a look at the horse? It's really a weird feeling, but it's just like something is pushing me into go to look at this horse...

It's ok to look! Certainly look if you're interested. Just go with the attitude that you won't be persuaded by emotions when you get there and "fall in love"...that leads to bad decisions to purchase. Go and see the horse and then tell the person you need time to think about it. If you sleep on it and decide you're still interested, go back again. Don't rush into the decision and don't be pushed into it. Learned that the hard way...boy have I ever!!!

And....are you competent to handle a bucking horse? If not, and you can't afford to send the horse to a trainer, I would NOT look. That's my advice.

I don't think its right to ask questions if you have no intention of buying the horse. I don't understand why you would ask for pictures if you didn't like it from the beginning, of course the seller is going to think your keen. Perhaps they were just offering you to see instead of sending more photos and answering questions. Talking in person and seeing the horse is much more efficient and effective.

You don't have to justify the horse - what you are saying to the person sounds strange. How can you even intend to buy the horse if you haven't seen it? You have no obligation to buy it. Organise a time, go out and look and ride. Afterwards say either: "I'm really interested in this horse, but I'd just like to think it over and talk it over with instructor/family, I'll contact you in the next few days" or "i'm really interested, can we organise a vet check?" or "Thanks for showing me, I'm looking at a few horses, let me think about this one and I'll contact you if I am still interested" or "thanks for showing me your horse, but I don't really think she is what I am looking for".

I would send her an email, say you are interested but looking at many horses, ask if you can give her a test ride. Don't say you want to buy her.

After reading thread after thread of training issues with potentially dangerous horses on this forum, the best advice I can give is to find the safest horse you can for yourself and never buy outside of your skill level. Be honest with what you can handle and trust your gut. DO NOT BUY ON EMOTION.