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post #1 of 19 Old 06-18-2012, 01:11 PM Thread Starter
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Am I wrong

Last winter I was having a problem with one of my horses and was considering that I was not a good fit for her. So I told my nieghbor that I was going to sell her in the spring. Well she had fallin in love with her and wanted her real bad. So I gave her to her (nice gesture on my part) as I know she would and is being well taken care of. Well Saturday she came up to me and told me her husband wants a gelding instead and then said "you need to talk it over with you husband and figure out which one I will trade her for Midnight back" I have 2 males one is still a stud only because he is 7 weeks old and then there is Atreyu which is a 15 month old gelding. I feel pressure of trading her and now I am hiding out in my house but I do not want this horse back I feel I was nice enough to give her a horse in the first place. I have her horses sister and she is wonderful but I never clicked with this horse. Do I give in and trade I would just have to sell her I am sure. Ugh I guess I feel I need to move now.
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post #2 of 19 Old 06-18-2012, 01:15 PM
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You gave this horse away, you did not loan it.

If your neighbor wants a gelding, tell her to sell her present horse and BUY one. You are under no obligation to take back this horse and 'trade' one of your others for it.

Stop hiding in your house, and tell them in no uncertain terms that their horse is not your problem.

You're not a child, you're a grown woman with a husband. Find your ovaries and tell the neighbors to go pound sand.

You want the truth? You can't HANDLE the truth!

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post #3 of 19 Old 06-18-2012, 01:18 PM
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Maybe I'm not reading this right, you gave your neighbor a horse, her husband doesn't want a mare but a gelding, so neighbor tells you that you must trade the mare you gave her for one of your colts? If this is the case she needs to go pound sand, it is now HER horse and her problem. If you want the horse back, take it back. If you don't, then let her worry about selling/giving it away. How can she possibly think that you are somehow obligated to trade for another of your horses? Sounds like someone is a couple mcnuggets shy of a happy meal...

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post #4 of 19 Old 06-18-2012, 01:19 PM
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Ok that is just scary.. I need to go far far away.. not only do we agree, this time we use the same phrase.... Lord help me!

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Yep. The above comments are spot on. I'd tell her, "Hey, I gave you this mare because I saw you were attached to her and I knew she'd go to a good home. However, I'm not interested in trading for my other horses."

You don't owe this girl anything. You did what you did out of the kindness of your heart, and what she's more or less demanding is very rude of her to begin with.

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post #6 of 19 Old 06-18-2012, 01:21 PM
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Ok that is just scary.. I need to go far far away.. not only do we agree, this time we use the same phrase.... Lord help me!
What the hell are you doing inside my head? Get out! Get out right now!

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post #7 of 19 Old 06-18-2012, 01:21 PM
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Tell her that you don't have any horses that you want to trade off. I'd offer to take the mare back though but no trade.
I can't believe the nerve of some people.
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Wondered what this dark scary place was....

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post #9 of 19 Old 06-18-2012, 05:05 PM
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Wow I wouldnt trade jack ....... tell her they are your horses you have no right to even think I would trade my horses. I was nice to give you a FREE horse im not taking it back and im not trading for my gelding.
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post #10 of 19 Old 06-18-2012, 05:20 PM
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In compatibility the mare is not worth the boys. Even over trades are not common and you are not a trader. I would offer to take the horse back for her purchase price(free) and, if the boys are for sale, offer to sell. Maybe mark your price up a bit so you can get what you want while making her feel like she got a "friend price".

Don't fear this situation. Stand your ground. Be strong and don't give in on something you don't want to do.

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