Starting something with "no offence" automatically puts the person on the defensive and adds a negative connotation to everything you say. It just makes the person who is making the criticism or comment feel better about themselves. |
Instead start things positively like "Cool, that's really exciting, I thought you were just into showing but its great you want to do more" or something like that. Also, becoming an instructor does not mean she wants it as a career, many people just do it as a little side thing for fun or just as a personal project.
This. Do you really think that what you said was sweet and innocent and she just blew up. I think you know better. Several people here have pointed out to you how the statement could have been taken offensively and yet you still refuse to apologize based on the reasoning that she won't accept it. Wether she accepts it or not is really irrelevant. It does sound as though she overreacted, but you two do have a history. You were in the wrong. You should apologize (and be sincere) and explain what you meant. If she chooses not to accept, then move on and forget about it.