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post #1 of 22 Old 07-24-2013, 07:27 PM Thread Starter
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angry rant about busybodies!

As I have mentioned here before, a friend of mine has a friend (she calls her her "instructor", even though the woman has no credentials as far as I know), and occasionally she brings this woman to my place to see my horses. She is an absolute know-it-all, and constantly calls other people down and criticizes; even people who are certified experts. Last week she brought her over and she immediately began to examine my horses very carefully, and then suddenly announced that my older mare was foundering! My friend who leases the mare was there, and she is an absolute novice so she believed her. The mare was showing no signs or symptoms of laminitis, but this evil woman kept insisting and talking down to me like I was stupid, and the woman who leases her was in tears. Long story short, I got rid of the woman as quickly as possible (but not quickly enough), and within a day had the mare examined by a vet, my farrier, and my riding instructor (who IS certified), and they all concluded that this woman is off her nut! There is absolutely NO sign of laminitis in the mare (nor has there ever been). I am still very angry, however, that this woman upset the mare's lessee, as well as myself, and that there were also other people present who probably still believe her. I got the impression she was trying to convince them all that I don't take proper care of my horses and I don't know anything. I haven't heard a word since from my friend that brought her over, and that bothers me because I was dying to tell her what the experts said. Anyway, I have decided that this woman is NEVER allowed on my property again, but I still can't believe the whole thing. I just don't get whats up with people like that!
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post #2 of 22 Old 07-24-2013, 07:30 PM
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Does the person who brings the woman know that the woman is no longer welcome?
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post #3 of 22 Old 07-24-2013, 07:37 PM
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So this woman insists your horse is foundering? Call her on it, tell the dame you are making a vet appointment and you want her there as she will pay for the vet due to her alarmist opinions. Tell her to put up or shut up. That's how you deal with yap traps!

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Jeez, I hate people like that. Unfortunately they're in pretty much every barn. I deal with them on a daily basis :X.
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No, I have not talked to her since but can't wait to tell her!
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So this woman insists your horse is foundering? Call her on it, tell the dame you are making a vet appointment and you want her there as she will pay for the vet due to her alarmist opinions. Tell her to put up or shut up. That's how you deal with yap traps!
She doesn't know it but my neighbor is a vet, and she examined the mare that same evening for free. The local vet would have charged 45.00 just for the call-out. My farrier was coming the next day, anyway. He was shocked at the "diagnosis", as was my instructor.

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No, I have not talked to her since but can't wait to tell her!
id give her a call.

"just so you know, I called out the vet, the farrier etc to see Susie and they all confirmed she is NOT foundering.

Hey, I really would appreciate if you don't bring your trainer here. Not only did she talk down to me, but she scared my friend Jane, and it cost $X to call out the vet etc."

Hopefully your other friend appologizes and agrees to never bring the witch back out again.

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post #8 of 22 Old 07-24-2013, 07:54 PM Thread Starter
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Yes, I intend to do that. I hadn't spoken to her since because I knew she was going away for a few days immediately after that, but I know she is back now and was hoping she would call me first. I am also kind of afraid she will stick up for the wicked woman, and that will be a shame!
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post #9 of 22 Old 07-24-2013, 07:58 PM
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katieq, as they say, "the proof is in the pudding". I'd believe 3 independent experts before that lady and so should your friend.

Even if she does stick up for her...everyone makes mistakes...she should respect that you are not comfortable with her "trainer", and leave it at that!

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post #10 of 22 Old 07-24-2013, 08:11 PM
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I would let her know that her expert was wrong. She may have brought her out because she thought she was being taken advantage of ? Or the know it all had a horse she wanted to lease to your friend ? (which would be my guess) . I would tell her You lease the horse. You are allowed out here..NO ONE else under any circumstance, If you think the horse has a problem you come to me. You don't bring people out here that make false accusations and upset the entire barn and I am terribly disappointed and hurt that you did this. Be sure to add the last line.
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