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    09-28-2009, 09:56 AM
Angry Annoying obsessed horse person

I need to rant for a little bit about a horse girl I met at a show when we were 14 (7 years ago) who has crossed the line from "overly interested" to "annoyingly obssessed" about convincing me to let her ride my horse. She has two horses of her own!!!! Her phone doesn't work for voice but her text messages do and as soon as she found out I got Caleigh (I'd been trying to avoid her for the past 5 years) this is how it started word for word (I can hold a lot of texts but my phone still sucks).

Her: Congrats on the new horse! I know you've wanted her for a while!
Me: Thank you! She's great. Finally my own horse, no more leasing!
Her: So when do I get to meet her and ride?
Me: You can meet her not ride, she's mine and she needs to get used to me before I let anyone else on her. How's Saturday.
Her: Sure. 3pm?
Me: cool see ya! Oh and if you wanna go for a ride bring one of your girls.
Her: ok

Saturday roles around and she shows up. No trailer, just her. So I figure cool she'll meet her and we'll ride next weekend. So I'm riding and when I'm done cooling Caleigh off she walks up to me and says "My turn?". I say "No. You ride your's this is my first horse and I'm not sharing. Sorry but that's how it is for now."
" but I don't have a trailer so I figured I'd ride Caleigh"
"well you figured wrong. I've been "sharing" other peoples horses and I'm not about to share mine."
Few days later.

Her: so bring her to me and we'll ride
Me: no. I don't have the funds to trailer her where ever when ever. My hauling has to be planned in advance and I'm not hauling her for 50 bucks 10 minutes away for 30 minutes. That's ridiculous.
Her: Ok well come ride my horses.
Me: I have my own horse I don't want to ride anybody elses anymore. I got my own for a reason
Her: If wouldn't kill you to let me ride her or you ride a smaller horse
Me: yes it would. HaHa. I'm not sharing. I'm reverting to my selfish inside 4 year old.

So I go to one of her horse shows and notice no matter she's showing in she is in a very, very, very over exaggerated two point. Placed halfway or more up the horses neck, her heels are raised high to the sky, and she has no leg placement to keep any sort of balance. I kindly, yes kindly asked her why she was riding like that and she said "My trainer says it's easier on the horses back." Well her trainer happens to be the trainer that has jumped/been kicked out of 15 barns in the past year for wrongful teachings and avoidable student damages/falls/injuries/problems...I can't think of the word.

I point out if her horse were to stumble even slightly she was way more likely to fly off than regain whatever balance she had.

She's just getting too be too much! She'll do anything to get to Caleigh and even my trainer at the barn has said she's stopped by to see if I was there and when my trainer said I wasn't she asked if she could take Caleigh out. My trainer apparently stared, amazed, out of words at her and said someone with that kind of sense shouldn't be riding anyway.

I've stopped responding to text messages and sadly my phone doesn't block incoming texts just incoming calls...ugh. Now that Caleigh and I have established a relationship I allow my 5 closest friends (which this girl is not she's a long term acquaintance from a horse show way back when) to ride Caleigh with signed releases and me there. And my friends take lessons from me so Caleigh isn't just getting ridden she's being worked as well.

Sorry I ramble when I'm upset. I've told this girl every way I can think of through texts and in person and through my trainer apparently that she is not going to ride my horse ever no matter what and I don't want to ride her horses or share mine with her! What part of NO does she not understand.
She went from overzealous (not sure if that's the right word) horse lover to obsessed and it's driving me crazy! I want to scream at her and shake her until she understands this but I'm not that kind of person.

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    09-28-2009, 10:33 AM
Originally Posted by drafts4ever    

Avoidable student damages/falls/injuries/problems...I can't think of the word.
The word "incompetent" comes to mind.

Sounds like a horse stalker! Something of a child who can't have what she thinks she wants and becomes obsessive about it. Be careful and put a note on the stall door that says "No one to ride this horse without me present or without written permission". That may preclude her showing up when your trainer or you are not there and taking your horse for a ride.
    09-28-2009, 10:45 AM
Originally Posted by iridehorses    
The word "incompetent" comes to mind.

Sounds like a horse stalker! Something of a child who can't have what she thinks she wants and becomes obsessive about it. Be careful and put a note on the stall door that says "No one to ride this horse without me present or without written permission". That may preclude her showing up when your trainer or you are not there and taking your horse for a ride.
Good idea! I'll do that today and no later than today. Incompetent sounds about right. When I was 12 I took two lessons from him and I was never in the positions he has her or any of his other students in but he did put me on a horse that was less than broke and walked away and my mom said....NOPE. Then he disappeared and apparently is "teaching" again.
    09-28-2009, 01:12 PM
I can't agree with Iride more. The woman sounds like a basket case, a danger to herself and horses. I wouldn't let her near my horse with a ten foot barge pole. Definitely have that sign put up, and let your trainer know and anyone around the barn know about this little bunny boiler.
    09-28-2009, 01:29 PM
Huh.... she sounds kinda weird.... and a little creepy. Lol
I would want her far from my Clyde!
    09-28-2009, 03:17 PM
I understand where you're coming from. I do NOT share Victor and I make sure everyone knows it. Lol I never grew out of the "mine" phase.

What an obnoxious girl. I don't think it's a matter of her being over obsessed, but more like she's being pushy and in-your-face simply because that's the way she is. She sounds really creepy, quite honestly. I don't understand why anyone would want to ride someone else's horse when they already have their own. If I was in your situation, I would probably be extremely nasty to that girl, especially if I tried being nice at first and it didn't get the message across. I have no patience for people like that.
    09-28-2009, 03:19 PM
Oh my word! That is just crazy! She sounds like a real nutcase I wouldnt let her anywhere near my animals.. Do you think you could file a restraining order against her? Did you save her emails, texts and phone calls? You could use em in court.
    09-28-2009, 06:41 PM
Well... That's frusterating. Honestly, I never would have even let her come over to meet Caleigh. I've been leasing and riding other peoples horses for the entire time I've been riding. After I got Cricket I swore I wouldn't do ANYTHING to help ANYONE with their horse (ride, ect...) unless it was my horse or my best friends horses. That's it.

Bottom line, she's your horse. Not hers. I would completely ignore her. Break off any kind of contact from her, completely 100 percent. It's your right as the owner to allow who ever you want on your horse and she has no say in it. I would make that very clear to her, which you have...
    09-28-2009, 07:21 PM
Like how old is this girl? She sounds like an abnoctius (have no idea how to spell it)12 yearold. I would start to become very forcefull, not rude but over ruling. The reason why I may not want to be rude is because by the sounds of it god knows what she would do if you made her angry!

If she still lives with parents I would defenatly be talking to them.
    09-28-2009, 07:52 PM
That's ridiculous, she acts like a child. Honestly, if I were you I'd yell at her over it. I wouldn't be nice about it, her persistancy is ridiculous and you're answer's not going to change by being pestered.

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