Join Date: Aug 2010
Location: Southeastern PA
There was just a conversation about this, so I think that's why you got such a rough response.
Personally I love my Ariat cowboy boots, but I never ride western. In fact I ride in breeches, so I don't wear them when I ride.
Tonight I am wearing an old kids hoodie, that's long on my wrists and so super comfy and slippers. Tomorrow, I have court with a foster kid, so I will be in a dress and heels. I grew up pretty wealthy as a kid, now I don't have enough money - so I fit into both roles rather well.
People can judge, and they do, tomorrow I will be in a dress suit in court with a black kid foster kid (I am white, he is not mixed race). They stare, they point to the person they are with, and they try to figure us out. I smile, because they have a small mind. I think it's good for their brains to get some exercise. Some of the rudest ask if the foster kids are my kids. Why should I disclose that they are foster kids, so I now just say yes, they are. I have 4 foster kids, all a year apart, one black, one Hispanic, two white.
For me personally, I don't judge someone on their weight, how they dress, their race, how attractive they are etc.
I really don't judge someone based on fashion. The best foster kid I have currently, in fact I think he is the best I have ever had - sags his pants. Usually I can break kids of this by pinching their underwear, that's horrifying to them and the pants get pulled up. This kid will run away from me and then pull his pants back down again. Someone judging this kid from his appearance would be doing him a great injustice. We have snow here, this kid shovels my elderly neighbors before he does my own sidewalk. Last week we were in our local diner, someone dropped $20 out of their pocket as they paid their bill. This kid got on his knees under the table and ran after the person.
I am certain that people judge my black kid for sagging his pants, and they would feel safer with my white kids. My white kids who dress normally would steal their wallet, my black kid would return it to them.
Therefore I don't judge someone based on their appearance. It means very little.