As far as backing down and NOT wearing those things in public, hmmm.. it's not about hiding it, it's about 1) safety (b/c I know around here it would be DANGEROUS to have showing) 2) it just doesn't look professional 3) is it really worth the fight? As you get older, you realize some things just are NOT. Other things are. This is not one of those things that is worth the fight.. but again.. the flag thing isn't the focus.. and FTR, my son has a shirt that has a tiny rebel flag on the front breast b/c it's a rodeo shirt.. the back says "Wanna be a cowboy" with a picture of a little boy watching a bull rider. I don't let him wear it to school b/c it's not allowed in the schools here..