Join Date: May 2011
Location: Chino Valley, AZ
Once upon a time I believed in unicorn spit and rainbow farts...and then I grew up and realized that a horse is a ~1000lbs animal with hard, sharp hooves and teeth who can (and will) knock the stuffing out of me (among other things) if I don't assert myself as the leader first. Let me guess, your friend is the same kind of person who doesn't believe in reprimanding small dogs because they're "too small and fragile and might get hurt" (direct quote from my sister in regards to training/reprimanding her lunatic chihuahua that my 60lbs aussie/st bernard is terrified of).
I once had a fellow boarder basically call me an animal abuser because I slapped Aires on the flank for trying to kick me while I was picking out his feet. She said that she would "never hit [her] horse like that because it would hurt her." She then went to the trainer and asked the trainer if she ever "abused" Rex (the trainer's horse) by hitting him like I had hit Aires. Mind you, it was a mild slap on the flank and a firm "Quit it," not a knock-down-drag-out close-fisted punch. Anyway, when she said she wouldn't hit her horse because it would hurt her, I have her a serious piece of my mind. Was I out of line? Maybe. No one else who was there or heard about it seemed to think so. I honestly don't have patience for people who project their feelings and fears onto their horses knowingly, like saying it'll hurt their feelings to hit them or getting off their horse to lead it down a hill because the horse is "afraid of heights"...no, he has your number after fourteen years of ownership and knows that if he acts like an idiot and turns around on you, that you'll get off his back (his ultimate goal: not to have to work any harder than he absolutely has to) and do the work for him.
Sorry for the mini rant...had the hill situation happen with the friend I went riding with yesterday. For heaven's sake, if my two-year-old can do it, your 16-year-old can sure as hell do it! Funny thing was, when she didn't let him get away with his antics and actually MADE him do it, he was absolutely fine.
Do not tell me I can't...because I will show
you that I can.