Thanks for your thoughts. I will definitely look into getting him something like that, not sure whether that exact product would be sold in NZ.
Its a funny thing, I really do feel that she has been honest with me about him but that it is just her feelings being hurt by me not taking her word. Its not that I am worried about him (or else I would have had a vet look at him by now) but that I would like to discuss him in general with a vet and any things I can do due to him being older and sometimes a bit stiff.
She wasnt initially planning on selling him but after seeing me lose my nerve with riding and go through what she had in the past she felt he would be perfect for me. It was very much a situation where I felt that I should be grateful that she considered selling him to me. And don't get me wrong, I was but she was bored with him and had moved on to other horses at the same property that had a bit more get up and go. So he wasnt really getting ridden much.
I wouldnt say that we are good friends but since we live near each other I have stopped in for cups of tea etc and felt that it was the beginning of a friendship. She has been very good about not crowding me or turning up all of the time to visit him but has let me know that I can come to her with any questions or help if I need it.
I guess in my eyes if I was in her position I would say go for it if she wanted a vet to look at him for any reason, even if I felt it wasnt necessary I would know he was in a caring home.
I definitely wont lie about it when I do eventually get a vet out but I still find the reaction a bit over the top. And yes, it does make me wonder if there is something that she doesnt want me to find out about but my gut tells me that she has been completely honest so far.
I'm not a great one for standing up for myself and my first reaction was to gush about her much I trust her etc but then I decided, no he's my horse now and my responsibility. Im tempted to get in touch to patch things up but I think I will just leave it up to her, as much as it is bugging me!
The two requests that she made when I brought him was a/ if I ever decided to sell him that she would have first right to buy him back and b/ that I let the guy who had been doing his feet to continue to do so as he has a soft spot for the horse and likes to visit him. I'm fine with the first but after he got a pricked hoof from having his shoes done with me for the first time the other day then that one is out the window. He's a 'self taught' farrier and I'm definitely not letting him near my horses feet again!
Sorry for the long rant