My mom saw me browsing horses on the internet a little while ago. I wasn't seriously looking, just browsing to see what I like and if I can find a decent amount of horses with what I want (yep!). She asks what I'm doing, and I tell her. She sighs. So I say "Is there even a chance of me getting a horse?" Flat out "no." That hurt a bit. She says, "We're not paying for a horse." I say, "What if I do?" Another sigh. She says, "You can buy a horse yourself....When you're 25." I ask why I can't buy it now if I can pay for it. She says, "You're 16. You're going to college in two years. You don't need a horse. We (my parents) don't want to pay for a horse."
So I feel pretty bad. I understand her point of view and I'm not going to throw a fit, as her argument makes sense. What's bugging me is that she doesn't understand WHY I want my own horse. Yes, I know it will be hard work. Yes, I know it will be even harder work when I go to college. But there are things I could get from this that I cannot get in any other way. Anyone who owns a horse can tell you that.
One thing I don't understand is how she expects me to be able to buy a horse fresh out of college. Okay, so I'm finally living on my own off my own expenses. My mom knows very well how incredibly hard it is to make ends meet at that point in your life. How the heck does she think I'll be able to buy a horse then, of all times? Financially doesn't it make more sense to get a horse now and then just worry about regular fees then as opposed to all the extra fees that come with BUYING a horse? And paying for college isn't the problem. My parents put away a nice college fund for both my brother and I. He went to a college with a tuition of about 50,000 a year, and the college fund is paying for all four years in full. I have my own fund of equal or greater size, and most of the colleges I like are much cheaper than that.
I'm sorry, I'm probably being ridiculous. A 16 year old girl, living in suburbia, 30 minutes from the barn where I ride, and I want to buy a horse...I should just stop dreaming and think logically.