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post #1 of 6 Old 04-28-2009, 07:42 PM Thread Starter
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Awkward position

There's a bit of a backstory to this one... lol. So if any of you get through it, kudos!

My cousin, M, has been riding my pony Wildey for a year or two now. Nothing too regular, just every week or two. She also rode two ponies I had for a short time, Bugsy and Buddy. She is a decent rider, I would say intermediate. She lives with her mum, parents divorced. I have been trying to get her to join Pony Club for a year or two, she loves riding, and it would be so good for her. However, her mum always says no. When asked why, she says as M doesn't own the horse, what happens if he gets injured, etc. Silly argument, as he is just as likely to get injured with her riding at the farm than at PC. M's mum, F, rode when she was younger. Apparently the local PC would not let her join. Also another 'issue' that I won't talk about here, after which she quit riding. Not a horses fault. My dad and F have been friends since children, and he asked her why she wouldn't let M join PC, and she simply said I don't have to tell you why, and didn't talk to him for a month or so.

So, M kept asking, and F told her that she could do whaever she wanted after she turned 18. So M kept riding Wildey, and counting down the days till she turned 18 so she could join PC. Well she turned 18 about a month ago. Haven't had any rally days since then so she hasn't attended yet, but is going to join. She has committed herself to be fifth rider for out State MG team this year.

Problem: Now Brooke, (brookelovesparelli on this forum) rides Wildey regularly. She has joined PC, and took Wildey to our camp, etc. We were planning on M using Wildey for MG, as he is a seasoned MG horse, and will be good for M as she is new at MG. But this means that if Brooke wants to be in a MG team, She will have to borrow a horse. It also means for regular rally days, M will have to borrow a horse. We don't ave enough horses.

Solution: Buddy, a brumby I had on free lease about 6 months ago. I did a season of MG on him, and M rode him around the farm. A chance came up to have him ona free lease again. Voila, would be perfect for M. She would have to pay $20pw for agistment with my horses, but that is the only regular cost. We would be willing to help out with cost of farrier, etc. M only has a wage from McDonalds. We asked M, and she thought about it and said yes, I can afford it. So we contacted Alex, the firl who owned Buddy. She is at boarding school, and doesn't want Buddy sitting around doing nothing, she wants him out and about competing. So we pick Buddy up last weekend. Brought M out the next day, surprised her. Didn't ride, just checked him over etc, as the weather was cruddy. M was very happy, excited, etc. I asked if she was happy, reply, yes.

New Problem: M calls dad later that day and says she can't afford the 20pw. Dad thinks it was her mum behind it.

Now we have a horse in our paddocks, dad's boss expecting 20pw for it, the owner at boarding school, and no one to pay for Buddy. AAAARGH!!!!!!

A few ptions... We have talked to Brooke about leasing him, this would mean Buddy would be all hers, whereas Wildey is borrowed by about 3 people. She would just have to pay the 20pw.

Have also got my friend Linda who may try him out as a games pony for a while if Brooke is unable to take him. But if he isn't suitable... We will be stuck with a horse we will have to pay for and I don't have time to ride!

It's so frustrating... M was so happy... But again it is ruined by F. We don't know why. She says she is still planning on joining our PC, but if she doesn't we are down a member for our games team and if we can't find a replacement will not be able to compete. I just wonder if F will let her join PC like she says. And if she can't afford 20pw for Buddy, how can she afford $90 membership, plus competition entry fees, plus buying a uniform?

Argh... Any advice would be greatly appreciated... this may be confusing, lol...

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post #2 of 6 Old 04-28-2009, 11:33 PM
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No good deed goes unpunished, huh? If neither of your friends can take buddy and he will be a burden on you, then I would give him back to his owner. As for M...if she did join the PC, what would she ride? It sounds like to me you dont have anything left. If thats the case, and I think it is, then I would go ahead and find a replacement for her in the PC. I know its difficult because she is your friend, but I dont see any other solution. She isnt going to find a horse for cheaper than 20 a week. Thats a great deal! I pay more per week for the horse I own than that! Your gonna have to have a heart-to-heart with your friend though and thats gonna be tough. I just dont see an easy solution here.
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Ok.... that was hard for me to get through. The letters for names were throwing me off. I have no idea what MG is, and little to no knowledge about Pony Club - there wasn't one near me growing up. I also have no idea how much 20pw is compared to American money, but regardless - I think your friend really wants a horse, but can't afford it or doesn't want to commit. I would stop trying to get her to do things like get a horse or join PC, and start looking for a replacement for the games. She will probably flake out on that too.

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post #4 of 6 Old 04-28-2009, 11:41 PM
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Oh yeah and probably give the horse back to the owner.

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The problem is, the owner gave him to us to take because she is at boarding school. If worst comes to worst, we could, but it's not something I want to do if we can help it.

It was throwing me off too, eventer! i just don't feel comfortable putting peoples names on here without their permission. MG is Mounted games. Basically the deal is that she would only have to pay for adjistment, which is the $20pw. We would help out with costs like farrier, feed etc. So it is a very good deal.

Sandy, she will ride Wildey for mounted games, and probably borrow a horse from my friend Linda (also the PC cheif instructor) for rally days. Her and Brooke could switch between Wildey and baggins, Linda's pony. Not ideal, but do-able.

Eventer, the sad thing is that she is dying to have a horse and be in PC and all of it. But her mother is very controlling, and always has been (my dad who is probably her best friend admits so) and M is the kind of person who won't go against her. We though it would be better when she turned 18, and it is in regards to her (so far) looking like joining PC, but not as good as we hoped.

BUT, it may turn out ok. Brooke's parents came and looked at Buddy this morning and seem to like him. I will go out with Brooke and her parents this afternoon and ride him first, then put Brooke up to see if she likes him. If all goes well, then hopefully they will lease Buddy and pay for the adjistment, and M will be able to ride Wildey at PC.


Thanks for your replies guys, I know that was tough reading, lol.

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post #6 of 6 Old 04-29-2009, 01:15 AM
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LOL I've read it a couple times, and I am still confused! Anywho, best of luck in your sticky situation! I hope everything works out well for everyone!

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