I hand treat but they earn it everytime. I don't just give cookies for no reason.. and the second they get bossy the treat goes away.
I don't let horses rub on me, but I do offer to scratch their ears, face, chests, etc. They like to lean into me as I rub them, which is fine as long as they aren't rude about it.
I don't let horses hold into my clothes. I pay a lot for my own clothes and I rather not have to replace them for getting chomped on or torn. I've had a horse grab my hair before and that wasn't nice either.. so I don't tolerate that either.
I'm pretty strict...
"Strength is the ability to use a muscle without tension"