I finally found a barn I love. The atmosphere is precisely what I dreamed about when I was thinking about a barn. The trainer is so amazing I don't even have words. It was like learning to ride for the first time taking a lesson. There was so much I had been taught that isn't actually as effective or even correct equitation-wise that I'm now having to retrain. My mother also surprised me with an amazing early Christmas present after I went on at length about how wonderful the barn was and their many lease options. She's willing to pay for six months of lease time while my husband and I work on our finances (we're young and rearranging some debts) so I don't have to trade my love of riding for the drudgery of bills, bills, bills. I'll say I was literally dancing with excitement.
To make a very long story short, I'm worried about the transition because of the personal aspect of things. We don't just have a business relationship, I consider him a good friend. He's a very cool person, but I'm not sure how to explain that. I've never been in that position before. I don't know how to tell him what I'm doing, because I want to be completely honest because it's a small community of barns and the likelihood of seeing him at a show is very, very high. The barn manager also shows up from time to time, so it's not as if we're moving away. I've already understood that I will have to break it to my trainer first because he would know the best way to approach the topic with the manager. She seems to be in a state of barely balancing the books so the loss of income (and free labour) will likely not sit well and she is prone to blacklisting people.
Has anyone ever had this problem? What is the most fair and professional way to approach this kind of thing, where I want to do what's best for me while not souring a friendship? I'm not leaving just yet, but I will need to tell them before the year is out, since I'll be leasing officially in January. Any help would be amazing!