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post #1 of 38 Old 11-02-2010, 10:14 PM Thread Starter
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Being Pressured to Sell Horse -- Maybe it's not such a bad idea?

I have a 12 year old AQHA gelding, Diesel (in my avatar). He's my heart horse. He was my 1D barrel horse but I have also done endurance, sorting, roping, pleasure, and a bit of english with him. He's pretty amazing. However he's not an eventer which is what I have switched my focus to.

Needless to say he's been pretty neglected in the riding world. I go out and brush and love on him, and sometime take him out on the trails. He's being free leased to a pair of girls in 4H but they're starting to notice boys and with the weather he isn't getting as much riding.

I will be leaving in January to move to NZ for school. I will be there a minimum of 4 years. The graduate school I am looking at is in London.

I have had no intentions of selling him though. Even thinking about it makes me tear up and my gut tells me not to. I want to wait till I have the money to put him into a retirement facility and in the meantime he gets loved on by some 4Hers.


Now here's the problem. A week ago, my old BO who I still work for asked me if I was thinking of selling him because she had a girl looking for a horse. I said no but asked who she was. I said that he wasnt being ridden much so they'd be welcome to come look at him and would they be interested in a free lease. She said no and she didnt want to let them meet him if he wasnt for sale.

I've since been getting pressure about him from her. She says she would be the "middle person" and get 10% of whatever I sell him for. So according to her that'd be about $250 because she thinks I should sell him for 2500.

I was cleaning stalls the other day and she had the girl who is looking come and meet me. She's looking for her 7 year old daughter. I explained the situation to her and she said she was just worried about me coming back and taking the horse from her daughter (which I wouldnt do but I can sympathize). I made sure she was clear on where I stood but I told her she could come look at him in case she changed her mind.

My BO then told her she could take him on a week trial. Keep in mind they have still not met him. He will be at my barn in a stall but im not sure if the 7 year old will actually meet him as she doesnt know theyre looking yet. I agreed because I felt I didnt have a choice but I reinterated Im not really comfortable with selling him.


Am I just being selfish? I will be gone and they would ride him. But my gut tells me not to sell him. I would have first buyback, but the fact that they could dissapear, starve him, not pay for an elective surgery,etc scares me. I don't like not being able to make those decisions.
He is also not a push button horse. He will never do anything dangerous, but he will be stubborn and just not listen if you are not confident.

Is it time for me to let him teach someone new? Or would I be letting him down by selling him instead of waiting to put him in a retirement facility?


Sorry that was so long...this is really eating at me.
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post #2 of 38 Old 11-02-2010, 10:20 PM
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I personally feel that if your gut tells you not to sell him, don't. You don't want to regret something later. I'm sure you'll figure out a situation that will make everyone happy. The right person will come along and you'll feel that its right. Best case scenario you find a person that can lease him for a while and then maybe have the option to buy as long as you feel comfortable with it. Otherwise, just do what you feel is best.
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I went through this with my heart horse and it totally broke my heart. I couldnt afford to keep him or put him up in a retirement home. I donated him to a theraputic riding center. Even then, I still regret doing it. I would do anything to have him back.

That being said...it really comes down to what you can offer him verses what others can. When you are in NZ, loving him just isn't enough. If you want to board him somewhere...that would be awesome. But if he is just going to live out his days somewhere...maybe you should let him go.
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post #4 of 38 Old 11-02-2010, 10:38 PM Thread Starter
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That's what I'm worried about. Is doing it because I think he'll get attention, but then regretting it and not being able to do anything about it.

I'm hoping that watching them ride/interact with him will give me a definite answer one way or the other.

If he doesn't go with these people, he'll be staying where he is now which is my moms friends house. He gets attention paid to him but not a lot of riding. He seems happy, but I guess he would probably be happier with a job (even if he acts otherwise when you bring him back into work).

I hate this. I never have problems selling other horses, just this one.
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Is he old enough to retire? Or does he still have it? Do you think he would be totally happy being a pasture puff? If that is even an option?
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Do what feels right. Don't sell him just because you got pressured into it; you will thoroughly regret it later.
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He's 12 and has plenty of years riding left in him if boughten back into shape. I haven't looked too heavily into retirement yet because of his age, but I don't know of any in Montana. It would probably require me moving him somewhere else so I'd have to look into prices for that. I'm in college right now so I want to make sure it's something that would be within my budget. I've been trying to hold out on that option just so I could afford a quality facility. (Not that I have any problem affording his upkeep now).

He seems happy being a pasture puff. Whenever I come up, he'll run up for scratches and cookies but once I've given him that he's pretty much done with me. It seems like he's happy either way. My biggest reservation is I've caused him to kind of be a one person horse. I know him inside out and never have a problem with him. However he also will do the minimal required if you let him get away with it which makes me think he could end up with some problems in the wrong hands.
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I personally feel that if your gut tells you not to sell him, don't. You don't want to regret something later. I'm sure you'll figure out a situation that will make everyone happy. The right person will come along and you'll feel that its right. Best case scenario you find a person that can lease him for a while and then maybe have the option to buy as long as you feel comfortable with it. Otherwise, just do what you feel is best.

I have to agree with this...if your gut tells you not to sell him , don't.
But def. Do what you feel is right

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I am English, and I think we view age differently there because I think 12 is in its peak whereas the girls at my previous barn think this is older.

Either way it sounds like you truely love this horse, but you are doing different things now. If I were you, I don't think I would be comfortable selling him to a 7 yr old. I don't know that a 7 year old could know enough about horses to really care for it properly, of course this is not knowing anything about the parents. Once you sell a horse of course the new owner can sell it on again, and you have little to no control, and I would worry about a 7 yr old losing interest with horses.

If I were you, I would not be pressured and if you really think that selling might be best for him, then advertise and do it for a long time til you find someone you feel comfortable with.

I might sound crazy, but I think that a gut feeling is a powerful thing, and most of the time, it is there for a reason, so you should listen to it.
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I would not sell him if it hurts your heart that much... I sold my first horse and though he got a great home, I wish I had made a different choice..... even if he was a pasture puff... heck, that is what they are in the wild- no one rides them or works them or gives them a job. They just eat and drink, etc.

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