Urg! I've gotten so frustrated with this lately. It is especially common in begginers, and particularly young beginners, but I've seen riders of all experience levels and ages suffering from this.
I think its probably the culprit with many people when they buy a horse and two months later their frustrated they havent formed a magical bond and galloped off into the sunset together, bareback and bridleless.
Horses are hard work. Just like human relationships. As has been proven by the multitude of people who have been swept away by their hansom prince(or charmed by the princess), then they have a fairy tale wedding and come crashing down to earth with the realization that you don't magically live happily ever after.
I have seen so many people that humanize the horse, rather than giving it the respect it deserves as its own species. How many times do you hear "Pricess came running up to the fence and knickered at me because we have that special bond, she loves me!" It doesn't have anything to do with that treat in your pocket, does it?
Or how bout, "I had to sell him, we just didn't bond"
Or "Bronco bucked me off because I didn't bring him his treat saturday, I hurt his feelings"
Sigh. Sorry for the novel, I'm just tired of seeing people hurt and horses ruined because they can't separate reality from fiction, and human emotion from horse.