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post #1 of 13 Old 07-08-2012, 07:58 PM Thread Starter
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BO wants to use my gelding...

The BO asked me this afternoon if I would mind him using my old gelding to give a friend of his's daughter riding lessons. She really loves horses, and wants to learn how to ride. Of course I have some concerns about this.

1. My gelding is 20 years old, and I have basically been the only one who has ridden him for the last 13 years.

2. He is a great horse, but will test you if he thinks you dont know what you are doing. This doesnt concern me as much as it used to, because i put my bf on him the other day who has never ridden, and he tried a little funny business, but when I told my bf what to do, he did it, and Sonny listened to his cues.

3. Im jus tnot sure how I feel about someone else riding my horse. I am 28 years old, and maybe I should be more mature about it, but hes mine! lol

I dont feel as though I can tell the BO no, because he lets me keep my horses there for free, and provides hay free of charge. I wanted to tell him that his 2 year old I have been training would be a better suit for a begginner rider than my gelding, but I am the only one who has worked with her, and I dont want her messed up, plus, shes just two, one wrong move, and everything I have done can be erased. Am I just being selfish? I really dont want her to ride my gelding.

I ended up telling him he could use Sonny, but that the first few times she rides him, I must be out there to watch, and see how she handles him, then we will go from there.

My last concern is liability. With it being my horse, I want her to sign a contract stating that if she gets hurt or injured on my horse, I am not to be held liable for it. I am drfinatly going to maker her sign something, I am just not sure what would hold up in court if something was to happen.
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post #2 of 13 Old 07-08-2012, 08:08 PM
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It certainly wouldn't hurt the 20 year old to be ridden some by the little girl. Its not like a young horse that freshly learned cues could be messed up.

If you are concerned about the horse taking advantage I would ask your BO to please take him for a spin so she can see exactly what he does with a new rider and have a better idea if he is suitable for this girl. If the BO thinks the horse is still suitable, then I would ask to be there the first couple rides to make sure you are comfortable with it all.

If all is well by that point - then you have just made one happy little girl.

All I pay my psychiatrist is cost of feed and hay, and he'll listen to me any day!

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post #3 of 13 Old 07-08-2012, 08:39 PM
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I dont feel as though I can tell the BO no, because he lets me keep my horses there for free, and provides hay free of charge.

Hmmm.... I think I would have a very hard time saying no under these circumstances. Do you trust the BO not to let any harm come to your horse or the little girl? If so, I would gladly let the BO use my horse.
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If a BO were to allow my horses to stay on his property and give me hay free of charge, I wouldn't think twice about letting him use one of my mature horses for lessons. He's not at an age where a beginner's hand will erase everything he has learned for twenty years, so I wouldn't worry about it.

I agree with having the trainer take him for a spin before he plans any lessons.
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I think he will be alright, and you will be alright once you realize he will be alright.

Your BO asked you for a reason, because he is trustworthy and has a lot of miles under his saddle. This little girl won't hurt him and if you're concerned, get a waiver signed.

You're gonna be this little girl's hero She'll always remember that one horse who gave her those first lessons, and who graciously loaned him to her to use.
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Agree with the above. I don't think it would be bad for the gelding at all. Every gelding needs a little girl at least once in their life.

And I wouldn't suggest lessons on the 2 year old. Gentle or not, a horse that young should have nothing to do with a beginner rider.

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Generally at barns it is mandatory for anyone taking lessons to sign a waiver stating that they understand the risks involved in being around or riding a horse and that basically neither the barn, horse, or any barn staff (including horse owners) are liable for any injuries, accidents, or death...
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I realized we all assume the "girl" is a little girl. Lol. She could be a young woman.

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It's OK to say no to this. Something I could never figure out was why people don't hessitate to ask to borrow a horse, yet wouldn't think of asking to borrow your car? I wouldn't care if the question was sugar coated, no one would be using either of my horses. And should something go amiss with the horse, who'd be paying the vet bills? To me it's just not worth the worry.
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I think I would feel better about it if I was the one showing her how to ride on my horse, but Its going to be the BO, and sometimes I dont agree with the way he does things. Mybe I will offer him for her to ride, under the stipulation that I am there to watch at all times, or he can just let me do it.
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