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post #1 of 10 Old 05-27-2011, 11:29 PM Thread Starter
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Unhappy Boarding barn being hard on boarders

I had bought my horse last year from the owner of the boarding barn, which my horse has lived there approx for 13 years. I had said I had some health problems due to an injury in a car accident years ago, and that I wished to have a good horse to ride ocassionally(1 or 2 times in the spring/summer each week) My doctor felt that me having another horse after many years away, would be good thereapy for me. Over the winter I paid someone to ride her 1 or 2 times a week, as it was difficult for me to ride over the winter. I do go see my horse 2-4 times a week all year, whether to brush her, spend time with her, or ride now and then. I always pay my board on time, make sure her hooves get trimmed on time, have her given routine vet care, give her supplements, etc. As long as I have been there, now little over a year, all I hear is the barn owners complaining to me, that if they knew I wouldn't ride over half the week, I shouldn't have bought the horse. They are sorry they sold her to me! She is 18 and in good health.They are never friendly to me, andto a few other boarders as well.They are talking about buying her back(probably less than I paid for her) Board elsewhere is very expensive, and some are not that suitable for horses, in that they aren't very kept up. Should I just call it quits, or continually put up with their nastiness? I tried explaining to them what I said above, but that dosen't matter. Another lady there dosen't even want to go out there anymore. I try to be pleasant, and mind my business, but it really hurts. Am I in the wrong for having a horse for mostly companionship, and not much riding? I was trying to find someone for a partial lease, maybe $75 a month I would charge(they did that before too themselves), but not anything happening yet. She is a good horse. They act like they still own her, and I did say they could ride her too, for free. I appreciate any thoughts. Thankyou!

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post #2 of 10 Old 05-27-2011, 11:59 PM
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No offense to the owners, but HELLO down economy, don't run your paying customers off with your bad manners. That's just common sense. I don't think it's wrong to have a horse you don't ride much as long as it's being well cared for and loved. I would recommend leaving, your a paying customer, you should not have to deal with that, but if its the only place near you I would just recommend being cordial to the owners. Sorry if that's not much advice.

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post #3 of 10 Old 05-28-2011, 12:20 AM Thread Starter
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I agree with you. My husband said the same thing. I can keep a watch out for another place, especially when we move in about a year or so. I think I am too sensitive, and need to hold my ground more. When they took her front shoes off last fall, she limped for about 1 1/2 weeks. They said she would get used to having "sensitive" feet over the winter. I thought that was wrong, so I paid for shoes to be put back on. That was before she was mine. They never had her on supplements, and I put her on joint health, and she is getting her teeth done this summer too. She wasn't that affectionate before, but I can tell she is getting alittle more affectionate, cuz it didn't appear that she was allowed to be affectionate before I had her. Sure wish I could keep her by us, but we don't have acreage. Thankyou for your thoughts!
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I had a similar experience with a barn owner. She wanted to buy/trade Beau from us and when I refused, she became increasingly bitter.

Once there are bad feelings between you and the owners, there's only one way it can end.

I know how hard it is to find a quality establishment... it took us six months and alot of frustration.......but start looking.

Once there is bad vibes and resentment for you, it is not likely to go away.
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post #5 of 10 Old 05-28-2011, 01:30 PM
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I agree with the other comments. Don't feel bad that you can't always ride - just hanging around with your horse and grooming it can be a great form of relationship building and it makes it so that your horse doesn't always get tense and anticipate a workout whenever you're around.

I think you should DEFINITELY keep your eyes open for another boarding place. You are paying them for their services, you don't owe them anything, and you sound like a good owner. If they try to buy her back, don't feel obligated to accept their offer.
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post #6 of 10 Old 05-28-2011, 10:34 PM Thread Starter
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Thankyou for your thoughts. I am checking out the stable next door to ours. I didn't know they had openings, and the board is less money too. I am not complaining about the board I pay now, cuz there are places that charge more, and aren't as nice. I will give my horse's former owner a chance to settle this in a friendly way. My horse has lived there about 13 years, so she is used to things there, and I think she is happy. I just don't want any barn drama, just nice visits with my horse. I will check out the other place anyway. There is a lady boarding there I know, and she also has a horse not ridden much, due to some health problems, and her horse's age. I'll see how it goes this next week.
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post #7 of 10 Old 05-29-2011, 03:46 AM
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I'm sorry, but I just don't get why the previous owner/barn owner has such a problem. Whether it's you riding or not, it sounds like you are trying to get her some exercise. Besides that, it sounds like she is being well taken care of and it really just isn't any of her business. Sadly, you finding a new place for her to live is probably your only option. The owner will probably always feel that she is right, you are wrong, and there will be bad blood between you two.

I used to have to board mine for years, I'm from a big city and had no choice until I finally moved out and bought a place of my own. Luckily I never had a bad owner experience, but the other boarders were so petty sometimes, talking about everyone behind their backs, I hated that part of it. I had more than one person say I was a bad owner because I rarely rode mine in the winter. It didn't matter that I kept them groomed, well fed, and up date with any hoof/medical needs...because I didn't ride I was bad. My horses were healthy and happy, I knew they were healty and happy, and I could have cared less what they thought.

Honestly, I find great pleasure in grooming and just talking to my horses, bonding with them. In fact, tomorrow will be the first bath day of the summer and I'm really looking forward to it. If something were to happen and I couldn't ride anymore but could still groom them I think I would be okay with that. Horses are great companions even without the riding, don't let anyone make you feel as if not riding yours is doing a disservice to the horse because I promise you it isn't.
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post #8 of 10 Old 05-29-2011, 06:33 AM
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Welcome to the forum!

If things are the way you say they are, I agree with everyone and would be looking for a new place.

Horse ownership does not necessarily mean riding several time per week. If your horse is getting exercise and care, then for you it is the companionship and that can be worth more then the owner who rides then puts the horse up and forgets about it until the next time they want to ride.

I've owned horses for over 30 years and keep them on my farm. I enjoy the smell of the barn and the horses, the chores, feeding a carrot or two, or just watching them, as much as riding. Take enjoyment from your horse and take him somewhere else.

I'm not arguing with you, I'm just explaining why I'm right.

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Your time at the barn should be a peaceful rejuvenating part of your life. You shouldn't have to worry about being judged or mistreated. If they don't appreciate your business then take it elsewhere.

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post #10 of 10 Old 05-29-2011, 09:13 AM
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I agree with everyone else; find another place to board your horse.

Your BO has no rights to the animal, since they SOLD the horse to you. They can't force you to sell/give the horse back to them.

You also need to stop letting them ride the horse whenever they want, because in their mind that means they still have some sort of ownership over the animal.

Very few horses care if they're being ridden on a daily basis. Sure, some really, really like to work, but the majority of them are just fine hanging out and being companions.

I have my horses at home and the riding part is just one tiny piece of ownership. I enjoy them for who they are as individuals, and I've bonded with each according to their personality.

Heck, I even have a 25 y/o who's been retired since he was 19. I guess I'm a horrible, neglectful owner for retiring him, huh? Never mind that he has CHF and arthritis; if I was a true horseperson I'd dope him up and continue riding him.

The mare is yours to do with as you please. Don't let these people make what is supposed to be an enjoyable experience turn into you hating to spend time with your animal.

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