I looked at quite a few (online and in person) horses before deciding to buy Chili. The moment I saw her, I knew she was a strong possibility (if I could haggle the price!) When she bucked and I had to jump off (I'd have stayed on had my foot not been broken), I laughed when I hit the ground. Her (previous) owners were taken aback and said she'd never bucked before. I was mortified when the (previous) owner launched a foot at Chili's side (not hard, but I'd never kick a horse!!!)
The rest is history.
I've had her for 2 wks now and have seen her 11 of the 14 days. (dam* snow and ice) I handle her EVERY time I'm with her. If I get to the barn and she's in her stall and it's warm enough, I bring her out, rub her, talk to her, brush her and hand feed her a little (a couple handfuls) of grain. Only once has she held her head over her stall and just let me touch her. Most of the time, the moment I enter her stall, she moves away from me. When she's out in the pasture, she walks or trots away from me. Sometimes if I talk to her and tell her "Whoa," she'll stand still long enough for me to touch her and get ahold of her halter and rub on her some more.
I don't wear perfume or lotion (altho I need to, my hands are so dry!). I wear the same clothes each time and the detergent I use is always the same. I want her used to my smell...
But it doesn't feel like we're bonding at all. I know it's only been 2 wks and perhaps I'm expecting more, but it's a bit disheartening when the one thing I've wanted all my life -possibly doesn't want me.
Any other suggestions on getting her to bond/become more affectionate? Does it just take time and if so - how long? Are we talking weeks, months, years? Never? Maybe?
I want to bring her a treat with me to the barn but I don't know what she'll like. I'd rather it be something small so she doesn't think it's "food" and nothing too messy. I've been reading on treats and a lot of suggestions were for regular ole items I'd eat that she might like as well. We tried candy canes the other day bc we thought she'd like one. Nope. Neither horse did, tho. She loves the salt lick, so I'm thinking of something salty... but what?