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post #1 of 7 Old 06-16-2009, 04:38 PM Thread Starter
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bonding question

ok u no how most ppl say a good way to bond with your horse is by spending lots of non demanding time w/ them? well the barn im at is so far away i cant get there very often...therefore i cant find the happy medium between work and relaxing. i no all time spent with your horse is bonding but lets say i ride and then graze for a while-is that enough "non-demanding time?" (by the way on some days i do just go down to do one or the other but most times i cant right now) then me and my horse get exercise and non-demanding time. do you agree? by the way im a spaz so im sure im overthinking this! lol! plz share what u think! thanks so much! :)
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I personally do not think that "non-demanding time" is necessary, nor effective, to bond with a horse. A horse is looking for a leader to follow, not a BFF. Your body language is essential in getting a horse to "bond" with you. To humans, it's called bonding, but horses see it as having a leader to keep them safe and keep them fed.

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I've never heard it as non-demanding time, but it's a very effective way of bonding with your horse. But anytime spent with your horse is bonding. So doing a combination of exercising and then adding time where you just 'hang out' either by hand grazing or grooming is also a good way to balance it.
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I enjoy the time spent bonding with my horse. I do not know if the horse bonds with me or simply me bonding with my horse. Either way, this is time that is not replaceable. I prefer doing most of the caregiving myself, for example feeding, bathing, brushing etc. Whenever possible, I am outside with my horse doing something (if nothing else just brushing him down). I try to spend a minimum of 15 minutes a day with him. This is a link that may help you. Training Tips
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for some reason whenever i click the links it says they are blocked
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post #6 of 7 Old 06-17-2009, 09:19 AM
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This is a link to Sylvia Scott's website, "natural horse training". She has a lots of helpful information under the "Resources" section. It is interesting to read some of the articles, but I don't know about trying some of her techniques.
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ok ill have to go look at this website. u know im sure im thinking too far into this...i should just be going down to the barn and enjoying my horse, not worried about how i can bond considering every second spent together we r bonding. it will b much more fun if i dont worry about this, it will all happen by itself overtime. i should just stop thinking about it b/c then when i go to the barn and i have it all "planned" it is not enjoyable and yeah. isnt it weird how even tho i ask for advice on something i end up coming up w/ the solution by myself? this happens to me all the time! i believe this is the trait of a spaz! lol! anyways...if u guys still have advice on the topic feel free to post-i still like reading about this. thx! :)
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