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post #1 of 5 Old 08-16-2012, 09:21 AM Thread Starter
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Buying my first horse but don't want to hurt trainers feelings.

Ok so I am buying my first horse, but I don't know how to tell my trainer that I am. I don't want to hurt her feelings, because there wouldn't really be a reason to ride at her house because I'll have my own horse. How should I tell her?

Hello! I wish I had a horse of my own.... I am working hard to earn $1500 this year though! There just doesn't seem to be very many good horses on the market though......
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post #2 of 5 Old 08-16-2012, 09:24 AM
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If she's your trainer, why wouldn't you be riding with her any longer just because you get your own horse?

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post #3 of 5 Old 08-16-2012, 09:25 AM
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You usually still need lessons when you get your own horse - you might even need them more than you ever did before!

She might be able to come out to your place and give you some lessons?
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post #4 of 5 Old 08-16-2012, 09:32 AM
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You never know people's circumstances.

When I got my first horse, I had to quit lessons with one of my trainers because I took the lessons on her horse at her stable and she could not travel to the place I boarded my horse, as she'd fallen out with the owners of that stable and wasn't allowed to teach there. And I, quite understandably, wanted lessons on my new horse, not the trainer's. So ended up having lessons with the on-site instructors at my boarding stable. Just saying... things are not always simple.
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post #5 of 5 Old 08-16-2012, 10:22 AM
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You tell her very simply, kindly and politely that you want to own your own horse and you're looking for one.

Then the ball is in her court. She may give you advice. She may offer to continue your lessons on your own horse (you'll probably need them) She may even have an idea about a suitable horse or offer to help you look!

I doubt very much that she will be angry or upset. Trainers base their business on word of mouth. Every student or former student is a possible source of new students.

I'm not sure why you're finding it difficult to find good horses. It's the end of the summer and a lot of people will be finding it difficult to feed their horses with the drought, increase in feed costs, employment issues, etc.
Usually Fall is a wonderful time to buy a horse.

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