Originally Posted by FrannyGlass
Has a horse helped you get over sorrow or loss? How?
When I lost my younger brother, 10 years ago, do to a sudden cardiac arrest (he was only 35), I had just brought my horses home. The daily care they required forced me to think beyond my needs/grief. Being able to cry into their necks without having to explain anything was very healing for me.
Last January, when I found a lump and later through tests and surgery, was told I had cancer, my horses again played a vital role in my recovery. This time it was to gauge how close to "normal" I could perform all my daily tasks. Very grateful that I was able to put up 400 bales of hay while
I was undergoing chemotherapy. Many times, tossing 4 flakes of hay was all I could do, but those days, fortunately, those days were not long lasting.
So my horses helped me gauge if I was maintaining my normal daily activities. They never looked at me differently when my face was partially paralyzed from surgery (that has come back now), and treated me as me. I rarely show fear to my husband or family, but to my horses I could pour out my deepest worries, without the feelings of guilt in burdening my family. It left me being able to put a very brave front on for the people I love, and in turn , helped me to look forward. Looking past the treatments is so vital in recovery, at least for me it was.
My horses helped me remember the simpler joys in life, and reminded me what is important in my life. So while my family and friends are key factors in my life, my horses play a deep role too.