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    01-11-2013, 11:55 AM
Can somebody read my long story and help? Really fraustrated now

I have not posted much in this forum before but now for the past couple of days have been going insane thinking about what to do I thought maybe I would post here and see if somebody can help.Sorry it is is long story but thought maybe background info would help more in people giving me advise.

I am a 40 yr old adult rider.Always dreamed of having one,Parents didn't bother getting me lessons also moved to a third world country in africa where horse riding was more of "man thing" and no way a girl could have gotten on a horse.Anyways after getting a secure job starting riding 3 yrs ago with a 10mth break inbetween.

Started off huntseat,(at that time didn't even know anything about disciplines) discovered a saddleseat barn very close to the barn and started riding there.Was not doing bad (had even started cantering )but after a conflict with trainer had to stop riding there.

Took a 10mth break ,lost interest for a bit.After the break decided to go back and start riding again.Tried huntseat,but just didn't like it and since there was no other saddleseat barn nearby decided to get my own horse and board at a local quarter horse barn.

Didn't go very well,horse was a rescue not trained properly and I developed fear issues because of his persistent spooking and rode him at a walk only for a year .(Yes even with a trainer).Eventually ended when he threw me and got a head injury.Horse adopted to someone else. Didn't learn much during that year.

Got a new horse,(saddlebred) again stupid idea didn't get vet check,horse was a roarer and started losing tons of weight.Found out the quarter horse barn was not feeding him properly.Went back to the original saddleseat barn and discovered the trainer that I had fought with had left,so happily moved him there where he started gaining weight back again and was also put in training.Roaring issue became better with exercise although even now can be ridden for only 35 mins at a time.

Started taking lessons with assistant trainer there.Rode all 4 lessons horses fair.However main trainer said my own horse (the roaring saddlebred ) was a bit too quick for me and they could find me another one that would be a better fit for me.Barn owner promised she would use my own for lessons and give me discounted board and I agreed.Anyways got a 17 year old saddlebred which had been used for kids.The first few rides on him were not great but I still agreed on getting him.

A few months later and I discovered that the 2nd horse was not working out either.He had a very high neck and head and also started his trot with a "jolt" which resulted in me panicking and pulling on the reins and stopping him too soon.He was also lazy and after a couple of times of me stopping him would not move at all.

Tried out 3 saddlebreds inbetween all did not work out luckily they were on trial and I sent them back.

Tried riding the my 1st saddlebred and I can ride him a little but also panic too soon as soon as he picks up a little bit of speed.The 2nd one I don't ride him at all as I am scared of him

Right now have been riding the lesson horses for months.working on stirrupless and bareback.I am going fine on them but as soon as I get on something else my mind panics so bad I want to give up within 10 mins.

I am intensely fraustrated after pouring in years of lessons ,tons of $$ ,time and everything I still can't ride a horse properly.Also tried going back to huntseat but I get painful knees can't do 2 point and have no interest in jumping.Another problem the only other horse I would consider beside a saddlebred is a morgan as I find other horses a bit boring.I hope nobody gets offended by this just my opinion.

Can somebody advise me what to do ?

Change disciplines? Maybe western on a saddlebred ? Or even just huntseat on a morgan/saddlebred ?means selling my 2nd one and getting yet another new horse.the barn does not have a western practice horse.The 1st one I will not sell because of his roaring issue.

Give up riding altogether ? Just go on leisure trail rides on a quiet horse if I can find one?? Means boarding at another place as my barn has no trails.

Hubby is continually asking me when I will show?? Poor guy has no idea I can't do anything beside maybe walk /trot a deadbroke horse !

Another option maybe get a morgan and try saddleseat on him? I have a feeling I do better on them because of their shorter necks.I get panicky when the long giraffe neck of a saddlebred comes in front of my face !

I am sometimes so embarrassed when 8 year old kids whiz by me riding the same horse which I could never ride.I just want to sink in the ground......

Once again I apologize for such a long rant !
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    01-11-2013, 12:24 PM
Well that is a tough go. Sounds too tough and not that I fault the trainers but you need to be on a better horse. I would throw all breeds aside and really start looking for a nice quiet buddy to learn on. Do you have any other riding facilities nearby? Hopefully a western barn? More riding will strengthen your legs, but if you are having major pain problems I would get into western, get you some stirrup turners, and relax. As soon as you start enjoying it, you will settle down and move forward.

I'm only 32 but I'm past working on major problems. All I want to do now is get on and ride the trails. Are you interested in showing or is riding more of an outlet/exercise for you?
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    01-11-2013, 12:42 PM
To be honest I have thought of that ... A lot but I tend to get bored very very quick as soon as I feel I can handle a horse I start getting bored of him and that is not the poor horses fault! I am interested in showimg
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    01-11-2013, 12:45 PM
You might want to try dressage. What area are you in?
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    01-11-2013, 12:48 PM
Originally Posted by ~*~anebel~*~    
You might want to try dressage. What area are you in?
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I did sadly failed in that too I have short stubby legs and have trouble giving a horse proper aids :(
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    01-11-2013, 12:49 PM
That could be very discouraging to you.......have you thought about a different breed of horse, a more quieter type? What type of riding is it you want to do, do you want to show, do you want to trail ride?
Do you want to enjoy riding or do you want to be stressed with showing?
I am now 53, I got back into horses after over 30yrs. Of being away from them. I have been riding my mare who I got at 3yrs. Old for the past 8yrs.......we trail ride, it's relaxing, I have lots of friends who I ride with but when I first got back into it I had to get my confidence back. That was one of the hardest things I had to do with a 3yr. Old with only 30 days of riding on her and scared of everything!
I spent time getting to know her and her getting to know me, me learning to trust her and her to trust me......has your trainer thought about working with you doing ground work with a horse, that really helps you build confidence from the ground and when you get in the saddle you are more relaxed knowing you can control the horse.
Myself I have 4 horses, all quarter horses......they aren't the big fancy show horses but they are great trail horses, well the one is a four yr. Old (from my mare) who is in training by myself/friend and come spring we hope to be riding him out of the round pen. That's going to be interesting LOL I haven't had to deal with a youngster in 8yrs. And now to start again!
Talk to your trainer about all the things you want/don't want, it seems to me you need to build your confidence more with horses, they can be big intimitating animals but you can be the leader and that is what they want!
Good luck!
    01-11-2013, 12:50 PM
I would defiantly try Western as well on the Saddlebred you have.

Western saddles are much more secure, and if the Saddlebred you have is fine (in the head/trained) and you get along with him otherwise I would try the western saddle. It might just give you the edge of confidence you need to work with him (saying that all his problem is, is starting a little faster then you want)...

It might give you more security to try going faster etc. because if he goes too fast instead of pulling on his mouth harshly, just grab a hold of the horn in one hand and work him down with the other.

Just my 2 cents! Hope it works out. I've heard that Saddlebreds are extremely intelligent so I would guess if you could work with the one you have, you'd probably be a happy rider.

My typing is slow... What everybody else says.
    01-11-2013, 12:52 PM
I also have stubby legs, and arms and what have you. Only 5'3".

IMO it sounds like you are looking for something more challenging, and I think dressage might fit the bill. But it is tough, even for people with long legs! I guarantee no one just hops on a dressage horse and can give a correct aid right out of the starting gate.

Good luck! I hope you find something which suits your riding.
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    01-11-2013, 12:59 PM
I'm only 5 feet tall also dressage lessons are
Like $90 a pop here !
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    01-11-2013, 12:59 PM
Heh maybe you should get into mounted shooting with your Saddlebred I would think THAT would be challenging enough!
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