Join Date: May 2009
Location: Mid Northern TN
I have to admit that I am confused.
The lesson horses and non-morgan/saddlebreds are too boring, but your own and other horses are too tough and scary. Which is it? Locking yourself into two breeds and refusing to consider others is, IMPO, stupid unless you're competing in breed shows. The right horse for you is the horse that can work well with you can carry you to or teach you what you need to learn.
If you can competently w/t/c on a 'boring' horse (Can you? What about leg yields, etc?) then you need to work on learning to confidently do the same on a 'quicker' or more 'interesting' horse. This is a one step/one stride at a time process, and can be slow. You're not going to get more confident in your ability to handle horses that aren't schoolmasters unless you ride horses that aren't schoolmasters, but are still hopefully well trained. You want to gradually up the challenge.
Dressage was too tough, so you dropped it. I'm 5'2" w/ stubby legs, an adult beginner and bought a greenbroke horse, and we work at learning dressage, so I don't buy that you 'couldn't' do it, just that the dressage lesson you took wasn't rewarding enough for you to want to go back. Which is valid, it's not for everyone and that's fine, though it could be helpful for most people in any discipline.
You don't need a new horse- it's not going to fix your problems. You need to work on you. What is it you want to get out of riding? Is it the time with horses you enjoy? Pushing yourself to master a new nuance of riding well? Seeing new country out on a trail? The thrill of speed? Figure out WHY it is you want to ride, then choose the right horse. You've tried a whole lot of horses and gotten nowhere, and that's just going to continue until you find out what you really want to get out of riding and then find the right horse for that.