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post #1 of 16 Old 12-08-2008, 12:07 AM Thread Starter
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Can't stand it!

Oh my gosh I want to gah! rich horse owners with I'm better than everyone attitude! makes me so mad sometimes!

With what I do, I deal with stupid people alllll the time but you know, I take everything in stride, sometimes laugh (in my head) and move on. That's my general attitude towards everything as I don't find life is worth wasting time on really rude people BUT here is my venting.

I went to the barn a couple nights ago. Now at that barn is this horse who boards a stud there, this individual owns this horse ok. Now he isn't anything fancy. Cute markings and is VERY well behaved. Now this owner will essentially, vocally say "woah" every time he blinks, repositions his hind end for resting, sniff something etc etc...she is an experience horse owner but she wants to make sure that anyone who's in the barn at that time, will know that it's a stallion. Turn ALL attention to him/herself and the bloody horse(tho this horse is so quiet, a child could lead him).

ANYWAYS

The way this owner acts and behaves just drives me nuts. Always acting as tho he/she is better than everyone else in the barn and what ticked me off, made a very rude comment the other night. Something along the lines of "why would you own a Canadian if you want to win in the hunter ring" and all in that same phrase put down a new rider(an middle aged rider) who just bought a cute little horse (a mutt, not very attractive I must say) who is learning how to ride. I bit my tongue and said nothing. I worked with my horse whom I always tie in the aisle instead of using a standing stall. I do that if this owner is around as I understand he/she would be better off having it because of the stallion situation. But you know what, after that night I don't know why I did it and will honestly not give it a second thought from now on. I've come to realise I use the same board as everyone else and I'm going to quit thinking about others (as bad as it sounds) and deal with people like that, to make it easier for them.

Also! to add on to this, this owner was out in the ring riding (never does more than a walk and sometimes will actually trot) while I was working with my boy in the arena. I had been there for about 20 or so mins before this owner came in with the stud. Shortly after getting on this owner asked if my guy was stallion as this owner's horse was "freaking out" (all that was happening was his ears were pointed forward *rolls eyes* he wasn't doing anything) because my guy was being walked around the ring. I politely answered no. Out of courtesy to this owner, I walked my horse out of the arena as I figured it would be easier for her "freaking out" horse (again *rolls eyes*).

Why do I do this? I am honestly WAY TO NICE and I need to learn to say no, learn that I deserve just as much as everyone else.

Stables will always have people like that especially in the Hunter world but how do you guys handle it, what kind of horror stories do YOU all have?
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post #2 of 16 Old 12-08-2008, 12:57 AM
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Yikes!!
Every barn has them though.
I hadn't been at Park for long when I got "told on" by an aged woman. I was having a mini-lesson with my friend (being a friend, and helping me out; I don't pay her nor is she a registered instructor) one day and this woman came into the arena. She might have done 2 laps around the ring (I was still warming up at a walk) and then left in a huff. I thought nothing of it. I've been in enough warmup rings half the size and with 50 riders in it to know how to act around someone and keep my horse out of the way. It was just me and her in the arena, and I did nothing to disturb her or her horse.
Anyways, later that afternoon I got a call from my BO regarding this woman, appearantly I had taken up the entire arena and forced her out, so she had to stop riding.
*sigh*
Where do these people get their high horses from?

When I was really young and had my first horse (Dancer) I had a terrible show. I had just bought Dancer not long ago and she was 5 and hothothothothot, your typical thoroughbred. I swear nothing could have gone more wrong all day.
I had just been thrown for the umpteenth time that day, and had just gotten back on Dancer and started to gather my nerves. I was standing near a jump that wasn't being used in that warmup, when all of a sudden I hear a yell - "Look out you stupid kid, get out of the way!!!" as this rude trainer is barreling up the line towards me; of course Dancer freaked right out and dumped me again! That trainer was (and still IS!) a piece of work. I hate him with a passion.

At one training facility that my friend boards at, there's this trainer/instructor guy that feels he owns the arena. Doesn't matter where you are, he has priority over you. My friend was lunging her 3 year old filly in the middle of the arena and I swear to you, this guy ran his horse into her no less than 3 times.


Kelly - tell ya what, next time she's around, throw a crutch at her, you'd do the world a favor.


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post #3 of 16 Old 12-08-2008, 01:15 AM
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My BO can be really nice to us because we are boarding there, but as soon as I bring someone they do not know, they're out there watching, giving snub looks, and making everyone feel so uncomfortable. Now no one will come visit Thunder or me anymore.

Oh and everytime someone comes in to my work and I somehow find out they ride and stuff, ill mention that I have a mustang and all of a sudden, it's not worth talking about and he's just a mangy horse. ya horse people are a lot of the time stubborn, rude, and can think thye know everything. Not saying that about everyone, but the ones I meet in person. As why I turn to the HF :)
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Yikes!!
Every barn has them though.
I hadn't been at Park for long when I got "told on" by an aged woman. I was having a mini-lesson with my friend (being a friend, and helping me out; I don't pay her nor is she a registered instructor) one day and this woman came into the arena. She might have done 2 laps around the ring (I was still warming up at a walk) and then left in a huff. I thought nothing of it. I've been in enough warmup rings half the size and with 50 riders in it to know how to act around someone and keep my horse out of the way. It was just me and her in the arena, and I did nothing to disturb her or her horse.
Anyways, later that afternoon I got a call from my BO regarding this woman, appearantly I had taken up the entire arena and forced her out, so she had to stop riding.
*sigh*
Where do these people get their high horses from?

When I was really young and had my first horse (Dancer) I had a terrible show. I had just bought Dancer not long ago and she was 5 and hothothothothot, your typical thoroughbred. I swear nothing could have gone more wrong all day.
I had just been thrown for the umpteenth time that day, and had just gotten back on Dancer and started to gather my nerves. I was standing near a jump that wasn't being used in that warmup, when all of a sudden I hear a yell - "Look out you stupid kid, get out of the way!!!" as this rude trainer is barreling up the line towards me; of course Dancer freaked right out and dumped me again! That trainer was (and still IS!) a piece of work. I hate him with a passion.

At one training facility that my friend boards at, there's this trainer/instructor guy that feels he owns the arena. Doesn't matter where you are, he has priority over you. My friend was lunging her 3 year old filly in the middle of the arena and I swear to you, this guy ran his horse into her no less than 3 times.


Kelly - tell ya what, next time she's around, throw a crutch at her, you'd do the world a favor.
HAHAHA I loved that last comment Allie, I'll make sure to do that next time *cough*. Last time I was saw this owner, on my way out he/she did try to rub in my face that he/she apparently owns a barn up north and I don't remember what my remark was when that was randomly sent my way but I made it clear I didn't think anyone at the barn really gave it any thought. The look that came on this owner's face after saying it I'll always remember.
As I said before I'll make sure there is nothing but the barn aisle left for space when I'm there
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post #5 of 16 Old 12-08-2008, 11:43 PM
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When I get my boarding facility up and running, I will make **** sure everyone will be nice!!! ;)

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post #6 of 16 Old 12-09-2008, 08:33 PM
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Yeah unfortunaly I know those type of horse people. I was on a farm full of them. They thought they were great yet there horses were trained for them.

But I did have a boarder at our farm last year that thought her horse was great. She also tried to compete in classes that were out of her league. The horse was good but she had no clue what she was doing. She told every rider what to do. Yet she was asking me what to do. She was another show off like your boarder. But I think this one was worse.

She was the type to complain that here yearling should not be in the cold yet it wasn't even drizzling and had a shelter. Yet she bathed her poor mare on a cold day with cold water and never put a cooler on her. She even shaved the poor mare and left her unattened in the cross ties. were I ended up rescuing her from breaking her jaw. When she panicked and got the chains stuck in her mouth. When i told her she said she needs to toughen up. Nice huh

Thank god she left because those know it all drive you nuts and I didn't know how much longer I could hold my tongue. But she ended up leaving the farm with out giving notice. What gratitude for some one bringing her horse back to health when she left them at a farm and starving.

But my advice don't acknowlegde her. it drives them nuts. I know it is hard but do it. If she comes in the arena keep doing what your doing. If she freaks out say well can't you control your horse and keep riding. Eventually they leave the arena. If no one acknowledges them
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post #7 of 16 Old 12-10-2008, 06:19 PM
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UGH, I hate people like that.
At my last barn this one woman got herself kicked out, because although she had a LOVELY, sweet tempered horse, she barely ever showed up to look after him. And when she finally did turn up to clean his stall and look after him she left him standing in the cross-ties for hours while she merely picked at his horribly disgusting stall, and ignored him completely.

When I had first started leasing my last horse Mikey, I got tattled on one day by a woman because Mikey was a teeny bit sore from the wet ground and I was riding him. Unfortunately what the lady forgot to mention to his owners, and what i explained to them later, was that I only walked him for about 15 minutes, and than attempted to trot down one side of the ring to see how he was doing. As soon has his head bobbing started up again I brought him back down to a walk for a few more laps before getting off.

His owner told me that the woman had made it sound like I was riding him really hard through his bobbing and soreness regardless of how he felt. She believed me because she knew me well enough to know that I'd never do that.

I just don't see the point of doing that to someone.
Just don't get it.

About a week later that same woman was having a problem getting her huge TB to go into the wash racks. I offered to help, as problem horses are kinda my thing, and she hesitantly agreed. But not before saying: "You know he's a thoroughbred, right? They can be very hard to handle." It took a lot for me not to laugh right than and there. She had been working with him for about 20 minutes now trying to get him in. It took me one try. I tried to walk him in and when he refused to budge and started backing up I simply turned him around and backed him right in.

She didn't talk to me anymore after that.
XD

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post #8 of 16 Old 12-10-2008, 07:16 PM
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Ugh. I hate people like this. It seems they are everywhere. The adults I understand, but I was acting as a groom at a dressage show over the summer and these bratty little children were trying to do this. "Uh ahem, hold my horse so I can go hang out with my friend" "Go get me a water" "Groom my horse" "God, are you dumb, I got a BLUE ribbon, blue means first"

No sweetie, you didn't place thats why I don't have your blue ribbon.

It's so frustrating. This one girls dad was showing too and he is really not confident on horses yet. She was bossing him around and insulting him the entire time. I just wanted to slap her.
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post #9 of 16 Old 12-11-2008, 11:30 AM
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K so my horses live at home with me but when winter rolls around I like to go ride at an indoor arena about 45 minutes from my place. Last time I took my 11 year old cousin and my friend and her 12 year old sister. So we brought 4 horses in total. We had just finished tacking up and the 2 younger girls were on their horses and then this lady and her daughter brought their 2 horses in the arena. This arena by the way has way more than enough room for 6 horses. Anyway the mother proceeded to take up the middle of the arena lunging her horse in the biggest circle I have ever seen. I finally hopped on my horse who haddent been ridden in about a month and he was suprisingly quite relaxed..... until the daughter decided to try to run into him with her horse. So after that my horse was really jumpy so I decided to walk/ trot him in some circles till he relaxed and what does this girl do, she walks right though the middle of my circle my horse then tried to kick her as he is the king (in his head anyway lol) and she still didnt get the hint. Anyway long story short some people really need to learn to respect other peoples space. It may be my fault that my horse got bratty but its not my fault when someone cuts in front of me and practically gets kicked in the process.
So if anyone got through that I am quite impressed. I just get very annoyed when people think that they own the arena just because they board there horse there. Cause guess what I have to pay to ride in that arena too.
Sorry for my rant. :)
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post #10 of 16 Old 12-11-2008, 11:53 AM Thread Starter
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Oh no need for apologies, that's why this thread was started, get all your frustrations out
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