Join Date: Feb 2012
Location: The land of Enchantment
Yep, I have felt this in the past and I grapple w it now. I got a filly to keep my mare company b/c she became a bit to dependant on me. I couldn't open a house door, window, or pull up in my vehicle for example, w/o her whinnying and carrying on - although I spent/spend a lot of time w her. She is possessive of me, and I knew that before I got the filly - so DH has "pretended" the filly is his from day one. But, DH isn't horsey, so I train the filly...and my mare makes it pretty plain she feels betrayed when I do. B/c of this, I always feel "under the gun" for time when I work w the filly, and I really hate to train under that condition. Then, I feel guilty about making sure my mare knows she is and always will be "number one"...I'll think "am I treating the filly like a red-headed step child?" Oh, the trials of being a parent!!!
In the past there was a stud that didn't belong to me but I dearly, dearly love him - and I ordinarily have no use for studs. So, every time I passed one of my own horses over to ride him I would feel guilty - and I am not even sure why...kind of like I was a bad mother, or something.
There is just as much horse sense as ever, but the horses have most of it.