UGGG My heart goes out to ANYONE who has ever had a bad horse buying experience. My best horse friend found a "great mare" online in California (we live in Arizona) She talked with the owner for weeks about the horse, went out of her way to cover all bases. Even looked at several others in state and thought, "well the mare couldn't be any worse than THOSE!" So, we packed up, hauled a trailer all the way to California and when we got to the place we found out that the only thing that was honest about the horse was that she was pretty. All my friend was looking for was a three year old with good ground manners. The owner assured us that the mare was professionally halter trained and aside from the one time when she freaked out and jumped out of her stall, she was perfectly fine. Well, the mare was a pain to halter, and took two hours and six people to get in the horse trailer (that no other horse including many a colt has put up much of a fuss about). The entire time the owner just kept saying, "well, she is strong willed" I would have given up and called it a nice road trip....but since it was my friend I kept in. Her reasoning was she had to get the horse out of this place. (I ended up getting a broken finger out of the deal but that really was my fault)
We got the mare home.....And then things got REALLY bad. In the end after thousands of dollars of vet care compounded by the horse having to be sedated for EVERYTHING including shoeing, several broken bones, and a completely reconstructed ankle, my friend finally admitted defeat and sold the mare (for a tenth of what she paid (honestly, to someone who not only could handle her, has made quite a nice horse out of her).
Sometimes it is absolutely better to say "No, even though I drove all this way, I'm still not going to take the horse."
That's just one of my own horror stories. I'm sorry to anyone that has a dishonesty story of their own.