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    03-31-2012, 12:46 PM
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Foal
Child VS Horse $$$

Hi guys,

Last night my husband and I had an intense talk about our future. In doing this we came down to a serious but light hearted debate.

I am wondering if any of you parents, that also own horses, can shed some light on the situation.

I am a 37 year old woman, with a ticking clock. I have never had a strong drive to have children, as I have had horses for most of my adult life, but I still have the instinct to procreate. My husband does not want children, but would do it for me if I wanted. I had told him that as long as I was caring for my 2 horses and showing in Eventing, that I wouln't feel the need to fill a hole in my life. This made him feel cornered, but it was me being as honest as I could be. (I'm sure some of you ladies have had this conversation) He complained about the cost of our animals and flippantly suggested that having children would be less expensive, and that is where the debate began.

Tell me, do you agree or disagree? I honestly have no idea even what a diaper costs, so I am very interested.

Thanks everyone!
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    03-31-2012, 12:57 PM
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Yearling
Ahh yes, we've had this very similar convo. It's been my experience, especially if you are working, that the cost of children far outweigh the cost of horses.

Daycare alone in my area is $1200 each child per month, diapers and food, about $60 per month, clothing we budget $150 per month for both boys (as they get older this goes, up, since they need bigger clothes, which are more expensive)

And even with insurance, the cost of Dr and dentist is a lot...and the prescriptions for ear infections etc, and then the hospital bills for the unexpected (tonsils out, ear tubes in, ear tubes in again, and then again LOL)

Then there is there the cost of food as they get bigger - omg I was not prepared for how much two growing boys eat!

And you thought show fees were high... The costs of sport programs each season I could fund my whole barns show fees LOL.

Then there's the tutoring because math grades are low, and I suck at math.

The bleed is constant I tell ya...but worth every penny! Between the kids and the animals I have nothing left, but happiness :)
     
    03-31-2012, 01:04 PM
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Weanling
[QUOTE= Between the kids and the animals I have nothing left, but happiness :)[/QUOTE]

Best statement ever
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    03-31-2012, 01:05 PM
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Foal
Well, I have two children (little girls ages 3-5). I don't know what it cost's to do show/eventing, seeing that I was a little girl when I showed and well, my mom paid for all of that! BUT where I am from and where I used to get diapers (both my kids are potty trained now which I am soooo happy about), I got my diapers at costco, they are about $40 (that's after tax) a box. Diapers are expensive. I really can't say which is cheaper, but I also believe you can't put a price tag on happiness. We weren't "ready" to have kids, but I got pregnant, we made it work, was now the "perfect" time for me to get a horse, probably not, but we make it work. Lifestyle's can be adjusted, it's just about what your willing to sacrifice to make happen in life that's important to you. Do what makes you both happy, I didn't want to regret waiting to get a horse, so we did it, are you going to regret not having kids? Anyways, just my little opinion, good luck =)!!
     
    03-31-2012, 01:06 PM
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Weanling
I have had both. Kids are a lot more expensive then horses - in everyway.

What I did not expect when I had my daughter is that as mom, I basically had to give up most parts of my life that were not baby for about five years. I still got to ride, but it was sporatic.

Now, once she got old enough to ride, things turned around 100%. I now had someone to ride WITH and that was the most rewarding thing EVER. It was well worth five years of hit and miss.

Watching her, at the age of 4, going out to the paddock and stickign out the halter for her pony to stick his head in, then dragging him all over the yard by the side of the halter because she was not coordinated enough to use a leadline are some of my most treasured memories. AT that point, we rode together at a walk, usualy around the block.

When she was seven and started goign out on trial with me for six and seven hours at a time on her little arab, it was the best time of my life.

Now that she is 20 and starting her first horse under saddle, I can't wait to get my favorite riding partner back. We have one more year before her filly is old enough to ride, and then we are back out on trial for six and seven hours at a time. I can't wait. She is one of my best friends (my hubby being my first).

Having kids is a pain in the rear... they are expensive, your horses suffor in only getting ridden 1/3rd as much, but they forgive you. And once you have that kid to go ride WITH, it makes it all worth while.
     
    03-31-2012, 01:22 PM
  #6
Foal
After having read some of these posts, which are beautiful and heart warming, my husband (playing the devils advocate) decided to add a few things. He feels that because our health care is free in Canada that adds a lot to the budget. He also mentioned that he feels that most people own their own property for their horses. So he has asked me to qualify with a few numbers.
I pay $200/month per horse before hay and grain, and my show season costs me just under $5000 a year.
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    03-31-2012, 01:27 PM
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Yearling
Kids are more expensive and for much longer, the older they get the more they cost. They bring much joy and sorrow to your life.
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    03-31-2012, 01:34 PM
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Showing
If it ain't broke, don't try to fix it. At 20 we can go without weeks of little sleep and chasing a toddler. At 37 we are glad to not have to do this any more or at least have older children who can help with the "late in lifer". We do get to the point where we can love em to bits and then get to send them home. What concerns me is hubby says he's ok with this if it's what you really want. That is alarm bells as he's not ok with it. That may change with the birth of a child but it may also create a division and you wind up raising a child as a single parent.
     
    03-31-2012, 01:35 PM
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Originally Posted by ginofalltrades    
After having read some of these posts, which are beautiful and heart warming, my husband (playing the devils advocate) decided to add a few things. He feels that because our health care is free in Canada that adds a lot to the budget. He also mentioned that he feels that most people own their own property for their horses. So he has asked me to qualify with a few numbers.
I pay $200/month per horse before hay and grain, and my show season costs me just under $5000 a year.
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Oh my...sorry to tell you, but health care in Canada is far from free...unless someone up there has as money tree farm that grows $200 billion/year out of thin air.

On topic, I've had both - kids are far, far, more expensive than horses...
     
    03-31-2012, 02:01 PM
  #10
Super Moderator
It makes for a fun debate, but it's missing the point. A horse lives a long time, true, but you can sell it if you need to. Children, theoretically, will outlive you.

So, think for the longterm. Think about being old. What will children mean to you then? You will be too old to show or hunt and maybe even to ride at all. When all is said and done, you are either remembered on this earth by some lasting accomplishment, or in the hearts of your descendents.
     

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