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post #11 of 21 Old 09-29-2011, 07:43 AM
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I find that interacting with the other riders can be nerve wracking; especially if you don't know anyone!

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post #12 of 21 Old 09-29-2011, 01:27 PM
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Originally Posted by Arizahn View Post
I find that interacting with the other riders can be nerve wracking; especially if you don't know anyone!
I'm actually more at ease with people I don't know than I am with people I know and who are impatient with my nervousness, to be honest. People you don't know aren't going to know that you're nervous (unless, of course, you tell them).
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post #13 of 21 Old 10-03-2011, 08:59 PM
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Originally Posted by tinyliny View Post
oH I got a good one to add to the things to do to help you not feel too scared:

When things are just a bit dicey, such as your horse is breathing in that snorty sort of way that says he sees or hears something you dont' and he's worried about it. . . . or when he starts to dance a little because a chipmunk skittered in the bush . . .or the other riders went left and you want to go right and your horse doesn't agree . and things get a little "rocky", say this to yourself:

"This is so boring. I am so bored." Then it feels like a big fat nothing.
I wish I could make myself believe myself when I say that.
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post #14 of 21 Old 10-18-2011, 11:50 PM
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Singing always helps for me... i have had a lot of bad experiences and i read on a thread on this site that singing helps so i tried it :P i completely fail at singing to the point it sounds like cats are drowning but whenever my horse pigroots or bucks or gets a bit joggy and i feel the nerves start kicking in (i start to shake) i take a big massive breath and start singing whatever come into my head as loud as i want until both me and the horse has calmed down.

This method is also good when trying to build a relationship with your horse because they feel more secure when they hear your voice.

if you don't like singing or feel weird doing it then try just having a conversation with your horse or yourself but nothing horse related just what you did that day or what your making for dinner... It works for me :)
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post #15 of 21 Old 10-19-2011, 12:52 AM
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I came off my horse last year. I was being cautious. There were pigeons in the barn on the gate. She saw them and i was prepared for her to spook, she didn't and I relaxed. Just as I relaxed she spooked and jumped about 3 feet to the left. I came off and landed on the back of my right shoulder blade. I've come off horses before, but she's a little bigger horse than I was riding. Anyway, I hit just right and so hard that I had the wind knocked out of me and couldn't get up for a little while. I had to sleep in my recliner for 4 weeks! I could not cough or laugh and when I did it hurt so bad! Here's the cool part: right after it happened, when I got up on my knees I thought about my horse, she was somewhere in the arena. When I looked up and found her she was facing me and looking right at me. I motioned for her to come to me and she immediately walked over to me. This was within a month of when I got her. That was so sweet of her.

Anyway, this caused me to lose my confidence. Since then I have cantered on her once, and that was by accident. We were trotting and I gave her right leg to ask for a turn, but she mistook it for a canter signal. All of a sudden I was just cantering so smoothly on her! Every time I ride I think, "I just need to do it, just canter." I have gotten a lot better over the last year, but I'm 46 years old and it is true that you aren't fearless anymore at this age. I hate having fear, but since I've started talking to people I've found that this is not uncommon.

Okay, so tomorrow I'm going to ride and canter... hahaha.
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post #16 of 21 Old 11-18-2011, 03:00 AM
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We all feel fear. My trick is to sit down in the saddle breath out loud and stop riding. Stella slows and relaxes as well I turn her head to my boot and scratch her cheek. I am teaching her this is her safe place when it is also mine. We relax, thoughts are re-directed. It's like starting again and the other riders don't know what I am doing or how I was feeling. As for those in their 40ies and taking up riding. I have met people in their 60ies just starting out. They hide their fear well

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post #17 of 21 Old 11-18-2011, 03:12 AM
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I'm a very nervous rider. I never used to be, much like the OP's story began, but after my ongoing knee injury (originally not horse related) started, I definitely became quite timid in the saddle. Couple that with falling off and shattering my leg on my green mare in 2009 and I've really struggled in the saddle.

I find this thread very inspirational for someone like myself, who only truly got back into the saddle this year - and even that's been limited. Like some have said, I've done things in steps, and pushed myself harder than I possibly have in the past 14yrs I've been riding.

I look forward to following all the comments in here :)

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post #18 of 21 Old 11-18-2011, 08:31 AM
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My daughter is good rider, but is inexperienced. I am a so-so rider that is also relatively inexperienced (have only recently returned to horses after a 20+ year hiatus). Daughter bought a horse that I had serious reservations about - a green broke high strung Paso Fino. As I feared, the horse was WAY too much for her to handle, and after being thrown a number of times, daughter lost her confidence.

Recently, daughter rescued a little QH mare and had her trained to saddle. Green rider + green horse is usually a recipe for disaster, but the little mare is very sweet, and really tries hard to do what is asked of her. The only time the mare gets worked up is if she gets confused about what is being asked of her. Riding her new horse has done wonders for daughter's confidence, and her riding has really improved.

My mare is notorious - everyone was terrified of her when we first got her - exept hubby and I. Guess we remembered enough from having horses before that we could handle the terrible ground manners and get her straightened back out. Now she is a dream horse - on the ground and under saddle. I can say this with certainty because I did manage to get my fat backide up into the saddle again, and rode my mare. I had a little accident the last time I rode that was NOT the horse's doing - it had nothing to do with riding - but mounting from an unstable spot is never a good idea, and I'm paying for it. However, it has not dampened my enthusiasm and I fully intend to ride again as soon as possible - once I get a better fitting saddle.

Here is the trick I taught my daughter to help her with her confidence - it also helped me with my touch of nerves when I started riding my horse: Picture yourself having a wonderful ride - everything going smoothly. If you come to an obsticle or situation that is cause for concern - picture yourself and your horse riding expertly threw it. Trust me - it works. Maybe not 100%, but getting yourself relaxed is more than half the battle, because it will also influence your horse's mood and reactions.

Nothing will help much if your horse does spook, and if you have a real problem horse, it might not work too well, but on most of the horse's I've been around - it works very well.

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post #19 of 21 Old 11-18-2011, 08:44 AM
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something that helped me conquer to fears at once. one fear of actually riding my twh cross and the other speaking in public :)

every time i go near him i have to talk to myself... not directly at the horse but i talk out loud to myself. my sisters think i am crazy but it helps release some of my nerves. and when we are riding i do the same thing. i look like an idiot talking to myself or if lucky ppl think i am talking to my horse :) but being able to talk out loud and put a handle on how i speak ( in meaning if its gets stuttery i take a deep breathe and start over). once i could handle that on my horse, it was so easy when giving large speeches in front of people.
but talking was my key to forget the nerves.

another i liked and i am sorry if this makes me sound like a crazy person but it helps my nerves and fast to. i constantly tell myself look at this pretty guy(my horse of course), ppl are jealous they are not riding him... even if its not true!!! ;) it just helps me focus on the fun we are having
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