Join Date: Oct 2009
Location: Just south of sanity
Ladyfern, my deepest condolences.
It doesn't really matter how long we have them, as there's never enough time. I lost my best boy after 21 years together. It'll be 5 years in July since he went to the Bridge, and I still miss him every day.
Time DOES help, I promise. You'll never not miss them, but eventually there will be smiles when you recall your friends, and not so much grief.
As for not not wanting to get any more horses because of the pain when we lose them, I do understand that. Had I not already had 2 others, I may have gotten out of horses completely.
We have to remember that everything dies, and when we take on an animal we know that we're most likely going to outlive them. However, that's no reason to deny yourself the pleasure of their company or the love and companionship they give. Don't think of how their passing has caused pain, but how much more enriched your life has been to have known them.
I've said this before and I'll say it again now; the one phrase that applies is this: I could have missed the pain, but I'd have had to miss the dance. Even though the pain of their loss is everything and more than we've imagined, I wouldn't have missed that 21 year dance for anything.
You want the truth? You can't HANDLE the truth!
Last edited by Speed Racer; 04-20-2012 at 06:21 AM.