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post #11 of 32 Old 02-16-2012, 05:04 PM
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I would LOVE to be dating a farrier right now since my horse has a few hoof issues!!! I can just imagine our dates...me asking a thousand questions about hoof care. Not so sure my husband would appreciate it but that's what a girl has to do for her horse!!!
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post #12 of 32 Old 02-16-2012, 05:21 PM Thread Starter
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The more okay with it you are - the more he'll like you.. So try not to fuss too too much! Of course, there can be some allowances :p
You are so right lol I'm trying so hard not to fuss......but I hate being ready for dinner, waiting for 3 hours, and then having it cancelled. Lol But I'm trying!
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I would LOVE to be dating a farrier right now since my horse has a few hoof issues!!! I can just imagine our dates...me asking a thousand questions about hoof care. Not so sure my husband would appreciate it but that's what a girl has to do for her horse!!!
LOL I should talk to him more about hooves, but he spends all day with horses and just wants to relax at night
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Is he young and just starting out? The new guys need to be available at all hours, or they'll get the reputation for being unreliable.

His clients will make or break him, so until he's established and has a stellar reputation he can't afford to be unavailable, especially during emergencies.

My farrier is married with 5 (!) children, and some days his wife finds it difficult to deal with his schedule, so you need to realize that while it may get better it'll never go away completely. They do take time off to go places and do things as a family, but he always gives his clients a heads up ahead of time that he'll be out of town or not available.

If you're hoping for spontaneity and getting away on the spur of the moment, that's not going to ever be a part of your relationship as long as he's a full time farrier.

As far as promoting his business, he needs to have business cards made up and put them up at tack and feed stores, as well as any boarding barns in the area. You trying to push him off on people may not be received very well, since you're hardly unbiased concerning his actual skill sets.

My farrier has over 300 horses, and he still has days where the money is a little sparse depending on his schedule. He doesn't have a day job any longer but he does do odd jobs on the side, such as cutting and selling firewood during the winter, and fencing during the spring and summer.

I do wish your guy luck, because good farriers really can make decent money once they're established.
Yes he's mid 20's, and he's been doing it for 3 or so years. He does it full time, and he does like his work. He has business cards etc, and he does self promote, but he's also my farrier so yes, I will speak highly of him because he does a great job! I don't "push" him on people, but I do believe in positive word of mouth.

Thank you, he's an incredible person so I'm lucky to know him let alone date him.
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The more okay with it you are - the more he'll like you..
and the more he is likely to take advantage of you.

You need to make allowances for his schedule but he also has to learn how to delegate his time so that he - and you - have a life.
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post #16 of 32 Old 02-16-2012, 05:43 PM Thread Starter
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and the more he is likely to take advantage of you.

You need to make allowances for his schedule but he also has to learn how to delegate his time so that he - and you - have a life.
Yes, this is exactly my point, and why I struggle with it. His thing is that he doesn't want to lose clients. I don't want our relationship to suffer or end because I'm always "waiting" around. Don't get me wrong, I do see him, but I want to spend quality time together, not rushing always last minute or late at night. Just trying to be proactive in figuring this out. I'm making a point of taking care of my business also, so I told him if he wants to get together, we make plans or wait till we both have free time.
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I'm a farrier. The answer to that question is easy. You go with him. Seriously, between being married I dated a lot of girls and I never had trouble making time for them. Of course, I was never very dedicated to practicing every night making shoes that looked like they came out of a machine. Mostly, I just bought shoes that came out of a machine. I guess it depends on your priorities. As long as you are faced with this situation anyway, I would advise you to consider dating a doctor or vetrinarian.
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I'm a farrier. The answer to that question is easy. You go with him. Seriously, between being married I dated a lot of girls and I never had trouble making time for them. Of course, I was never very dedicated to practicing every night making shoes that looked like they came out of a machine. Mostly, I just bought shoes that came out of a machine. I guess it depends on your priorities. As long as you are faced with this situation anyway, I would advise you to consider dating a doctor or vetrinarian.
Lol so you tell me to go with him and then you tell me to date someone else. Its nice to hear from a farrier though, thank you.
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If your horse get his feet done for free then deal with his schedule hahaha
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If your horse get his feet done for free then deal with his schedule hahaha
I have a farrier BF~every 6 weeks
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