When my husband and I first met I was working for a horse trainer 5.5-7 days a week and he was working at a feedlot for 6-7 days a week on a rotating schedule. We spent what little time we had together although not much. But I never expected him to sacrifice his job me and he never expected me to do the same. We had a mutual respect for each others jobs and knew that time with each other was going to be little until either we decided to do something different with or without each other.
Granted we did things very unconventional and most peoples stories don't end like our ours, especially given how it started, but give it time to develop before you guys make a rash decision about the relationship.
I can say our family dynamics have changed several times in our relationship, from both of us working our butts off only to have a can of beans heated on the stove for dinner, him being the bread winner, or just me, to us being equals working together and him supporting me just because he wants to and we can afford it. If he is truely a good guy you will be rewarded for your patience and understanding, if he is not he will simply be taking your patience for granted. In the end only you can be the judge of that.
I DON'T LEAD 'EM AND FEED 'EM, I RIDE 'EM AND SLIDE 'EM.