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        08-05-2013, 04:06 AM
      #1
    Foal
    Dealing with loss.

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    PrettyBoyRuns 075.jpgIm just feeling down and want to brag on my,now passed, boy for bit.you don't haft to read and any harsh coments on my boy will not be tolerated.

    When I was eight I had been begging for a horse forever.Low and behold one day my grandpa drives up with a small two horse trailor and shoved into it is one hyped up bay QH gelding.I,of course, had no clue why he was madly pawing or why my grandpa was yelling at him to 'knock it off'.When he unloaded the hot nutty horse he shot out backwards and my grandpa pretty much had to fight him to the gate.I was beaming with happiness when he asked me how I liked my new horse,who at this moment was running around out pasture in a hot mess.I stayed out side till dark trying to get him to come to the gate so I could pet him,witch he had no part of.I later found out the he,Copper, had been used for calf roping,was just shy of 15 hands and was eight years old.

    For the next few years Copp had it good(in his head anyway),just sitting in a pasture old getting caught,if we could,every few months for them to lead me around on.This went on for two years till we moved three hours away.Copper was the first thing to come.On the day to catch him he was being extra naughty so now one could catch him.and what do they do?Send a me out with a lead rope and say 'go get your horse'.I was terrified of him by now.But none the less I walked up to him,slowly reached out and clipped the leadrope on his halter,no complaints from him. Fast forward a few months and im taking riding lessons form a lovely lady down the road who helped me with my confidence (and every thing else)SO much.Now I loved my horse,dont get me wrong, but there were days were I just stormed in yelling "Sell that stupid horse,hes going to kill me!" Yes you can say it,i was a BRAT.

    We sure did have our ups and downs but that horse made me who I am. By 2012 we were 13 and he was as calm and tolerant as he could get.I spent every moment I could with him.He was my best friend and my shoulder to cry on, my buddy to laugh with, my secret keeper and the only one I cared about.one weekend my friend had begged me to come over and stay the weekend.i went over despite not wanting to.we had a blast,4weeling and playing with her horses, talking about how I couldent survive if anything ever happened to Copp.i got home sunday night and my dad had his paint mare up abd told me to get Copper up who was in the back of our pasture, so I tried calling him and when that dident work a walked out to get him.When I walked up to him and went for him halter he shyed away,unusual for him.I talked to him a bit and led him half wa tho the field then tied hid leadrope to his halter and hoped on,walking to the gate.When I led him up he had his head hung low and his eyes looked sunkin in.my dad get worried about him not looking and called the vet, making an appointment for the next day.I loved on him for about 30 min, brushing him out and telling him he was going to be ok, I mean he alwase was.i got my dad to watch his tricks, bowing ,nodding and pawing then put him up for the night.i fell asleep and the last thing I rember before that was thinking how shiny his coat was from his weekend break and that every thing was gona be alright.

    The next morning my grandma woke me up saying "We had to call the vet,Copper died last night" crying.The first thing I said was "No he's not" then got my jacket and boots and went outside only to see my baby laying by the gate dead.i walked over with my dad and just set by Copp crying my eyes out.He NEVER waited at the gate, ever.he was right were I left him.

    Its been three months and even tho I just got a new mare, every time I think of him I feel like someone is stabbing me in the heart.
         
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        08-05-2013, 04:54 AM
      #2
    Weanling
    Dealing with loss is never easy, and the loss of Copper will hang heavy in your heart for years to come. The sad thing about such a tragedy is it can sour the happy memories you had for a while, at times just remembering the good times you had will bring you to tears.

    Time as they say though heals all wounds, and in time you will look back on him and you will smile and you will remember what you shared, you will remember he was your first horse, much like your first love, he will always be special to you in that way.

    In a way you are lucky because you didn't have to watch him suffer long, it was relatively quick, you didn't have to watch him waste away as so many do.

    When I was 8 years old my grandpa took me to a small grass and gravel airport south of town, there I met the man who owns the place, he let my fly his little Cessna, and from that day forth I was hooked on flying. He later on when I was in high school would teach me to fly, and I learned so much from the man.

    Thursday I saw him again for the first time in years, he is now 88 years old, wasting away in a old folks home, he has dementia really bad and he did not recognize me, that was until I told him the story of my first flight and then his eyes lit up and he remembered.

    The one thing he said to me though that rings back through my head now is "the one thing in life that is constant is change and you have to accept it."

    There was a lot of wisdom in what he said and how true it is, there was a time as a young man when he was in the Pacific flying a piper cub over the top of the Japanese at a low altitude radioing in to the boys shooting the artillery where their shells were hitting, something that I am not sure I'd have the courage to do.

    Yet now here he is 70 years later, crippled, half insane wasting away in a wheel chair.

    On the surface it sounds like a sad story, but when you look closer he shared so much with so many people, he raised a family, taught hundreds of people including myself to fly, and he trained a protege who now runs and owns the airport who does beautiful work restoring airplanes and has a successful engineering firm.

    So I am passing his words of wisdom to me on to you, change is inevitable, and often times change will mean experiencing loss, and more often than not that loss is going to come with some pretty strong feelings of sadness and grieving.

    The one thing obvious to me though is that through what you wrote I can tell you loved that silly stubborn horse very much, and that means he died feeling loved, I would hope we all could be so lucky to be so loved when we have to leave this world.
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        08-05-2013, 05:12 AM
      #3
    Foal
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by BigNickMontana    
    Dealing with loss is never easy, and the loss of Copper will hang heavy in your heart for years to come. The sad thing about such a tragedy is it can sour the happy memories you had for a while, at times just remembering the good times you had will bring you to tears.

    Time as they say though heals all wounds, and in time you will look back on him and you will smile and you will remember what you shared, you will remember he was your first horse, much like your first love, he will always be special to you in that way.

    In a way you are lucky because you didn't have to watch him suffer long, it was relatively quick, you didn't have to watch him waste away as so many do.

    When I was 8 years old my grandpa took me to a small grass and gravel airport south of town, there I met the man who owns the place, he let my fly his little Cessna, and from that day forth I was hooked on flying. He later on when I was in high school would teach me to fly, and I learned so much from the man.

    Thursday I saw him again for the first time in years, he is now 88 years old, wasting away in a old folks home, he has dementia really bad and he did not recognize me, that was until I told him the story of my first flight and then his eyes lit up and he remembered.

    The one thing he said to me though that rings back through my head now is "the one thing in life that is constant is change and you have to accept it."

    There was a lot of wisdom in what he said and how true it is, there was a time as a young man when he was in the Pacific flying a piper cub over the top of the Japanese at a low altitude radioing in to the boys shooting the artillery where their shells were hitting, something that I am not sure I'd have the courage to do.

    Yet now here he is 70 years later, crippled, half insane wasting away in a wheel chair.

    On the surface it sounds like a sad story, but when you look closer he shared so much with so many people, he raised a family, taught hundreds of people including myself to fly, and he trained a protege who now runs and owns the airport who does beautiful work restoring airplanes and has a successful engineering firm.

    So I am passing his words of wisdom to me on to you, change is inevitable, and often times change will mean experiencing loss, and more often than not that loss is going to come with some pretty strong feelings of sadness and grieving.

    The one thing obvious to me though is that through what you wrote I can tell you loved that silly stubborn horse very much, and that means he died feeling loved, I would hope we all could be so lucky to be so loved when we have to leave this world.


    Thank you so much.thoes words helped me so much
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        08-05-2013, 05:25 AM
      #4
    Green Broke
    I'm so sorry for your loss. Two horses I loved dearly have been gone for 5 and 6 years respectively and I still miss them so much. (((Hugs))) to you.
         
        08-05-2013, 07:35 PM
      #5
    Foal
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by HorseLovinLady    
    I'm so sorry for your loss. Two horses I loved dearly have been gone for 5 and 6 years respectively and I still miss them so much. (((Hugs))) to you.

    Thank you , im sorry for your loss *happy/sad smile*
         
        08-05-2013, 08:07 PM
      #6
    Green Broke
    I'm so very sorry for your loss - he sounds like a very, very special boy....time will be merciful in your healing. Let yourself cry whenever you need to, and be sure to let yourself smile when you think of all the happy memories you've made. Lots of hugs and prayers sent your way :)
         
        08-05-2013, 10:53 PM
      #7
    Foal
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by Northernstar    
    I'm so very sorry for your loss - he sounds like a very, very special boy....time will be merciful in your healing. Let yourself cry whenever you need to, and be sure to let yourself smile when you think of all the happy memories you've made. Lots of hugs and prayers sent your way :)

    Thank you :) and yes he was my baby <3
         
        08-05-2013, 11:28 PM
      #8
    Yearling
    So sorry for your loss, my daughter has a t-shirt that says every horse deserves to be loved by a little girl. You loved your boy and he loved you, and it something that you never forget. Anyone who has horses long enough learns the pain in losing one, but they are never gone from your heart. Remember the good times and how far you came with him over the years, your new horse will never take his place, she will find another special place in your heart just for her. Cry when you feel like it then pick yourself up and go for a ride.
         
        08-06-2013, 12:02 AM
      #9
    Foal
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by gssw5    
    So sorry for your loss, my daughter has a t-shirt that says every horse deserves to be loved by a little girl. You loved your boy and he loved you, and it something that you never forget. Anyone who has horses long enough learns the pain in losing one, but they are never gone from your heart. Remember the good times and how far you came with him over the years, your new horse will never take his place, she will find another special place in your heart just for her. Cry when you feel like it then pick yourself up and go for a ride.

    Thank you :')
         
        08-06-2013, 12:04 AM
      #10
    Yearling
    So sorry this happened to you, keeping you in my thoughts and my prayers. Its never easy to say goodbye to a friend, especially a horse.
         

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