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post #11 of 21 Old 06-12-2010, 04:00 PM
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To me it seems that the women does not want you down there at all even if she said you have to call, you could call and call and she could just make more and more excuss over you not being able to come down. Where you said that "Smudge hasn't shown any aggression towards me all the times I've gone to see her" It just depend on your relationship with the horse its self we have a Horse at my local yard and she can play up with most people but she is totally fine with me and very relaxed around me it just depends on the person. All I can say is it's not you fault at the end of the day just have a chat with the women. Or just give the place so space for a bit they might be going through some problems at the moment so she could be finding it hard and a little stress full and is taking it out on the first person she see's . That's all I can say but if the horse is aggressive then there should be a sign letting people know not to pet them so really and truly she is in the wrong. Plus she is not the barn owner so she can not really say anything unless they have told her to so...

To me you have done nothing wrong.. :)
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post #12 of 21 Old 06-12-2010, 05:17 PM
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I know how you feel Thorn4, maybe the woman that phoned was in a bad mood that day, it happened, it don't understand about that too much attention thing! I would if the horse had an infectious disease, but a leg injury?
I have been in a similar situation, I had to leave a show early because of my dad's work, leaving the horse plaited and tacked, but I told the BO and her daughter... I got a phone call from them the next day saying I wasn't welcome to the next show... I was 12 at the time. I could go back there, leaving friends etc.
I think you should move on and find a new place to go to, even though you love fudge...

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post #13 of 21 Old 06-12-2010, 05:57 PM
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It almost sounds like a liability thing. As I understand it, neither of the two ladies you originally spoke with own the barn - they just own some of the horses there. Maybe they got chewed out for giving you blanket permission to visit and they are the ones flustered and embarrassed and are handling it very badly with you (or at least the one is, I have no idea what happened to the other lady in this scenario).

The barn owner probably wants an adult present with you, so they can sidestep liability if something happens with you. Or maybe there is a barn policy that guests need to be accompanied by a boarder and it wasn't something made clear to you until you went there alone and someone got mad at the ladies who invited you.

I'd try calling and setting a time to see the horses. Try setting a time in advance when the lady knows she'll be there - say every Tuesday and Thursday at 4pm or some such. Play sweet and stupid - assume positive intent - pretend she really wants you there and just handled things badly on her end.

Don't stop doing something you enjoy, just because of some embarrassment. The feelings of embarrassment will fade as you get older, but you may forever regret missing out on spending time with those horses while you had the chance.

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post #14 of 21 Old 06-12-2010, 06:30 PM
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I think you should apologize. You obviously felt like maybe you shouldn't be there when no one was around or you would not have waited an hour for them before going in. I don't want people at my house when I am not home. I would explain that you waited around and was not sure what to do so you went in for a bit and understand that maybe you shouldn't have and you will respect there wishes and call ahead for a visit.
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post #15 of 21 Old 06-12-2010, 06:59 PM
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I think you should apologize. You obviously felt like maybe you shouldn't be there when no one was around or you would not have waited an hour for them before going in. I don't want people at my house when I am not home. I would explain that you waited around and was not sure what to do so you went in for a bit and understand that maybe you shouldn't have and you will respect there wishes and call ahead for a visit.
The woman complaining does not own the property, nor does she own the horses that THorn was visiting.

That's the equivalent of me telling your friends they aren't allowed at your house unless I'm there. Crap.
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post #16 of 21 Old 06-12-2010, 07:10 PM Thread Starter
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It's too late already. And I tried to talk her down and reason with her, but of course, she was stubborn and only sounded angrier. I should just not bother going anymore, if she's going to be like that. I tried telling her that Smudge is calm around me, but she went on how the horse could bite or kick me - but there is a door in the way of her feet?

Also, she said Hope (the sick horse) could fall on me within the stall..Um the horse is in such a SMALL enclosure, I can't see how she CAN fall. And it wouldn't be on me. I also go to the ranch at my own risk. If I get hurt, then it's my own fault, I know the risks of being around these large animals, and I am old enough to know to show care and caution. I'm staying away for now on. If she wants my help, she can pick up the phone and call. It's a shame we have people like that who act over protective of animals that love seeing people.


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post #17 of 21 Old 06-12-2010, 07:44 PM
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The woman complaining does not own the property, nor does she own the horses that THorn was visiting.

That's the equivalent of me telling your friends they aren't allowed at your house unless I'm there. Crap.
she should apologize to the property owner since she also expressed her concern of visiting when no one was there not the woman that called. The woman there obviously has some rights as a boarder more so than someone visiting and coming unanounced. And my friends would know whether I wanted unanouced visitors and I would not have a problem with them expressing my wishes to someone I was not aware of there presence.
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post #18 of 21 Old 06-12-2010, 07:46 PM
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I agree with AlmostThere. It is a HUGE liability. If anything happens to you no matter if your supposed to be there or not they are liable. I would be very unhappy if someone went into my barn while I wasn't there.
I actually had that happen. I was infuriated...
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post #19 of 21 Old 06-12-2010, 07:48 PM
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It's too late already. And I tried to talk her down and reason with her, but of course, she was stubborn and only sounded angrier. I should just not bother going anymore, if she's going to be like that. I tried telling her that Smudge is calm around me, but she went on how the horse could bite or kick me - but there is a door in the way of her feet?

Also, she said Hope (the sick horse) could fall on me within the stall..Um the horse is in such a SMALL enclosure, I can't see how she CAN fall. And it wouldn't be on me. I also go to the ranch at my own risk. If I get hurt, then it's my own fault, I know the risks of being around these large animals, and I am old enough to know to show care and caution. I'm staying away for now on. If she wants my help, she can pick up the phone and call. It's a shame we have people like that who act over protective of animals that love seeing people.
You overstepped your bounds by going in a horses stall that was not yours. It's her right to not have you doing things against her wishes with her animals wether you think it is safe or not. Sounds like you have went over the boundries and by your posts I am guessing this is not the 1st time. I still think you owe them an apoligy regardless if you go back.
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post #20 of 21 Old 06-12-2010, 08:09 PM
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Sweetie, if the woman who called you is neither the barn owner nor the owner of those 2 horses, then it is not her business to call you. If she had concerns, she should have taken it to either the BO or the horse owners. If I were you, I would talk to the BO and the owner of the horses and just tell them what was said to you and if there was any merit to it. Just straight up ask them if you had done something wrong that you weren't aware of. Some people are just crappy people. Don't let this one hateful woman spoil what could potentially be a great thing for you.

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