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post #1 of 13 Old 12-07-2012, 01:44 PM Thread Starter
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Did I handle this right?

Ok so I will try not to make this super long.
I have two horse's one of which I pay for alone my mom pays for the other horse.
They were both in the show barn up until this past tuesday. So all of my stuff was up there as well (feed cans, trunk, and my tack).
So my mom is sick and on disability so I have taken over both horse's board. So I had to move them outside to a cheaper stall. My BO was awesome about it had no issues with it. They were moved into two stalls that weren't next to each other but there would be two stalls opening up next too each other next week. So I asked her is she would mind if I left my feed bins in the main barn until they were next to each other before I moved them because they are super heavy. She had no issues with that and said it was fine. I moved my trunk and tack though.
So their is a trainer in the main barn that has brought more horse's in and filled the stalls I was in. He has asked in passing when I was going to be moving my feed bins and I told him next week when my horse's were next to each other but I could move them out of the way. He said no that was fine just leave them. He has been pushing his weight around and says that no one can use the main ring when he is in their with his stundents, his horse's are on a turn out schedule and you now can't use the top turn outs/ round pin/ wash racks. I was planning on moving mitch in feb to a show barn so I can get more lesson's in for up coming shows but I was going to leave Beau because of them difference in money. Said trainer kicked me out of the top ring wed. because he had a group lesson... I left because I didn't want to start any issues but this is a boarding barn not a show barn.... So yesterday said trainer comes into my work (I run my store alone) and tells me I have to move my feed bins that night because he has new clients in the barn. He was very rude about it. I told him I would see what I can do but They are heavy and they don't fit in my car so I would have to see if I could put them in a friends truck to move them. They are 100 gallon drums and weigh about 150 full that is more then I weigh. He got all huffy and rude and I told him that I had talked to the BO and she said I could leave them up there till my horse's were moved next to each other but I would be more then happy to move them out of the way. He told me that BO didn't know how to run a business and he is taking over the top barn and I would need to move them tonight. He left and I was more then a little heated. Not because he came to talk to me but because he could of called me and left a message not came into my work. That was totally uncalled for. So I went to my barn after work to talk to the BO and told her what had happened and that I was really upset by how unprofessional and plain rude it was for him to come into my work. She then told me that he had talked to her about it and she told him the same thing I told him. I ended up making the call to move both of my horse's to this new barn because of the way I have been treated and the way he has been treating everyone who isn't a part of his "group". My BO was very upset with him and told me I would be getting an apology by the end of the week and she can understand why I am wanting to leave as I am not the first to want to leave because of him and she was very sorry.
Did I handle this ok, by going to my BO instead of fighting with this trainer?
Is there a way I could of handled it differently?

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post #2 of 13 Old 12-07-2012, 01:51 PM
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I would have done the same thing and went to the Barn Owner, going to the trainer could have just caused more problems in the end and possibly burnt bridges.

I don't think it's right that she's letting this trainer make her boarders so uncomfortable that they have to leave though... I know my BO wouldn't let someone "take over" her stable like that! Sorry to hear how you were treated though, not fair at all.

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post #3 of 13 Old 12-07-2012, 01:54 PM
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I've been in a similar situation before but in my case
The BO fired the trainer. You did the right thing. :)
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Thanks guys. I felt bad having to leave becuase I really do like my barn owner but I just feel that it will be tense around the barn if he is still there.
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You totally did the right thing.
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post #6 of 13 Old 12-07-2012, 02:59 PM
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Yes, you did the right thing. The BO is going to have problems with this trainer. She should have put him in his place first thing. This is no different than animals, you let them get away with it they will think they are alpha top horse. I bet this is just the beginning!

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post #8 of 13 Old 12-07-2012, 03:59 PM
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You did the right thing by going to her. Better to be upfront than not say anything. I lost several boarders due to a trainer but did not find out until long after the fact.

Besides an apology - what did she do for you? If she is losing boarders because of this trainer already - what happens after he has been there longer?
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post #9 of 13 Old 12-07-2012, 04:23 PM
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You absolutely did the right thing. It's supposedly her barn and her rules. I say supposedly because she's letting g this guy take over. She needs to see first hand what problems the trainer is causing.
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post #10 of 13 Old 12-07-2012, 04:33 PM
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As everyone else has already said, you did right. It is the BARN OWNER'S barn, and not his.

If you aren't the first to leave, makes me wonder why she doesn't boot his @$$ out of her barn?

And really, for him to come and harass you like that at work (because he came in there to confront you, not to buy anything), well, that is a step much too far.
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