So after 3 years I went to the club where I learned how to ride to ask for someone that could ride my mare once a week or so and to ask if I can get a lesson, just to see what I need to work on.
I asked the instructor if she knows anybody that would want to ride and after a lot of thinking she said it's the best if I ask the trainer. I asked him and he pointed to that boy that was competing in showjumping and the boy said he has to think about it, cause he loves to party and he doesn't really want to have any responsibility. I was ok with it and left after I found out when I can come to the lesson.
I come to lesson few weeks after that and that boy went home even before I had a chance to ask him what he decided. I rode (the instructor was in charge that day, so I didn't want to ask her about a rider for my mare, as she told me last time she has no idea about it). And the lesson went quite fine, except she always wanted me to hold reins tighter. There were other riders - the ones that are still learning, but ride quite well and don't want to compete. I talked with them, but most of them were highschoolers as me so they would be in college at the same time.
When I came at home I add that boy on facebook and ask him what he decided. I still didn't get an answer a week later, so that would be a no.
Then I went to a show they had this weekend and you know I found out this riders, taught how to ride in the same club as me, use rollkur. Not the extreme, but the head is very under the vertical, horses trying to open their mouths and escape the bit most of the time.
Now I don't even want to think about the rider from that club.
I've never seen the ones who don't jump to over-use reins, they surely hold reins more tighter than I, but I think they wouldn't have a chance on doing it on my mare under my supervision. And I would put a bitless on.
The thing is the trainer doesn't want to give me a rider. I'm quite positive he said that boy could do it, because he knew the boy wouldn't want to. I don't want to ask the trainer again for another rider, I really don't want to go there ever again.
But the riders that still do learn, but are riding for 3+ years are perfectly capable to handle my mare. I just don't know how to get to ask them, as I can't do it through the trainer.
Any ideas how to get a rider? There are no other clubs in this area :(