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post #1 of 19 Old 08-30-2012, 11:06 PM Thread Starter
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Do horses resent not getting enough attention?

I hadn't gone to see my boy in five days (I usually go at least every other). I went out last night and he stuck his nose out of his stall and when I tried to kiss him he snapped at me. Then I walked into his stall and he pinned his ears and actually turned his back on me! I was so hurt. I talked to him and petted him and took him out and brushed him really well. He seemed to really enjoy the rubdown, which he normally just tolerates. Do you think he missed me or am I reading too much into this?
He seemed like he was sulking like a scorned lover. I love my horse because he really seems to have a personality and he is challenging, which appeals to me. Ok. I just re read my words and it sounds like I am literally in love with my horse LOL. Feel free to bash me or make fun of this post!
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I completely horse can act like that. Except it's over food. Are all horse's #1 concern food? But I had the same problem tonight, I haven't been down there in a week. Last week he had his eyes closed when I scratched him and would put his head on my chest, then tonight he would just turn away from me and when I went into the pasture he saw me and just stared at me, and usually when he sees me he runs over......but I guess that's the great thing about horses is their funny personalities!

I think we're all in love with our horses in a non-weirdo way.....haha

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Well mine certainly is not resentful lol. I could be gone fir weeks and he wouldnt care any less. Love him to pieces though!
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Just sitting here shaking my head. But, I will keep my big mouth shut.

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post #5 of 19 Old 08-31-2012, 12:11 AM
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you are making too much of that. Except the part of him snapping at you when you kissed toward him. YOu'd better stop kissing him, or get your nose bit off.

you might want to consider disciplining such bad behavior firmly, not like a talking to, but like a sharp snap on his tender nose.
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post #6 of 19 Old 08-31-2012, 12:13 AM
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No, horses do not resent you.

Your horse is being a jerk and getting away with it. Any horse that snaps at me, gets slapped into next week. Any horse that turns his butt to me, get a reminder on why they NEVER are allowed to do that. And I certainly don't sit there and pet and coddle my horses when they are being disrespectful. You are only ENCOURAGING that behavior!

Get your head on right and correct that nasty behavior as it happens. Unless you'd rather your horse bites your face off, or kicks you and kills you.
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Ok my dear, you sound a lot like me, so am going to share something with you. Ive been in love with my horse since I bought her in April. Kisses, loving, sweet been dreaming of my own horse for 38 years, so I just couldnt get enough of her once I brought her home. And shes a sweetie, which made it easy to love her. And then she decided she owned me, and not the other way around. She started to get bossy, not listening, and lunged at me in the round pen. The kissy kissy has ended, she once again understands who the leader is after a few very firm round pen lessons. Ive learned my lesson too. Shes too big to let her think shes the boss.

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Sounds more like he was ticked you showed back up.

If I miss a day with mine, then go out in the pasture (which I do 4 times a day), they act like I'm some weird beast and start, snort, sometimes even trot off.
Oh, heck she's back, that lady isn't dead YET!?

Yep, your post is bad. Get control of that beast or else he's going to hurt you, then the person you pawn him off on, then the next guy..........
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I have definitely experienced jealousy. I had one of the lesson horses on the crossties, cleaning him up and loving on him and my nephew was feeding him handfuls of hay. My five year old gave us the stare down, then he made quiet nickers, and as we kept ignoring him and giving the other horse hay, he started prancing. He did not like being left out, poor dear. He had a nice pile of hay at his feet, but as you all know, anything from the hand tastes better. He had that confused and unsure look on his face too, that screamed "hey, you are forgetting me! I am right here!" I entertain myself with thought that he misses me, but I know that he doesn't. He is just happy to see me always. He is such a loving goofball. It would wreck me in many ways to see that horse unhappy.
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Horses do not have the same emotions as humans.

Judging from this post, I think you need to take it upon yourself to learn more about horses. A great place to do that is right here on this forum. I especially recommend the horse training, health and hoof care. I first came here brand new to horses and boy did I ever have a lot to learn. I also learned a lot from RFDTV. Maybe someone else can suggest other places that may help.

I agree with those that said that your horse thinks it is the boss. You cannot ignore those behaviors. They will only get way worse. Enlist the help of a knowledgeable horse person to help you. Maybe someone at your barn?

I have been where you are. My horse's behavior was different, but I was treating him like a big dog, assigning human emotions to him and ignoring behavior I should have been addressing. I ended up having to hire a trainer to fix the big mess I had created. I got to the point I was terrified of him. The trainer was his last chance. If it didn't work out, I was going to sell him to a well know kill buyer in my area. It sounds harsh, but things really did get that bad. My lack of knowledge very nearly got me hurt and nearly costed my horse his life. It is that serious.

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