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post #11 of 19 Old 08-31-2012, 05:02 AM
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OMG! You haven't seen your horse in five days? You are soooo bad! Ok, just kidding :)

Can they be "resentful"? Maybe. I know they can be a PITA. Horses like routine. If you visit every other day and suddenly miss a while, they definitely can show attitude. Like others have said, I don't allow disrespectful attitude.

A friend of ours used to come visit and ride one of our mares regularly. Then she didn't come for two months. The mare wanted nothing to do with her, our friend, when she came again. The mare would turn and walk away. This mare is normally very "lovey". What I mean is that she likes attention and affection. She likes to get hugged and rubbed on, so for her to walk away shows her displeasure.

Also, if I go to the geldings before seeing the mares, I get the same response. So, is it jealousy or resentment? I don't know. I do know that they can show an attitude. It just depends on the horse. One of our geldings could care less if I went to see him or not.
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post #12 of 19 Old 09-01-2012, 07:48 PM
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Originally Posted by Horse racer View Post
I completely horse can act like that. Except it's over food. Are all horse's #1 concern food? But I had the same problem tonight, I haven't been down there in a week. Last week he had his eyes closed when I scratched him and would put his head on my chest, then tonight he would just turn away from me and when I went into the pasture he saw me and just stared at me, and usually when he sees me he runs over......but I guess that's the great thing about horses is their funny personalities!

I think we're all in love with our horses in a non-weirdo way.....haha
Well, I have to take this back.....first of all, it's not really "my" horse but the ones I take care of. And by not being down there in a week, I mean spent time with them. You know scratching their necks and letting them spend time with me and me spending extra time with them. And I was really busy that one week since school started. But it pained me that entire week not being able to go down there except for the usual feedings. but they still have contact with other people (their owners) but a week is a long time to put off your horse! Not trying to chew you out or anything.....but you really shouldn't kiss your horse. I never go near my horse's head unless they invite me by laying their head on my shoulder or chest. Usually I just stand by their shoulders.

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post #13 of 19 Old 09-02-2012, 02:38 AM
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As long as my horse has food and water I dont think he gives a stuff whether I'm there or not. My mini will act excited to see me but thats just because she knows I'm coming to let her out of the dry lot and into the paddock with the gelding. All horses are different though, my mini is more people orientated and will follow me around but the big boy couldnt care less, I think most of their so called 'love' towards me pretty much comes back to food! Doesnt bother me though, I've got my dogs who are much more affectionate. Although when I think about it most of their love for me probably comes back to food as well!
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post #14 of 19 Old 09-02-2012, 03:59 AM
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Like another member mentioned, horses like routine... what's more, most of them like the same person doing said routine. Where I live, I don't board so I do everything for my horses... minus the odd exception when a friend might head out for me if I'm sick/away.

Because I have an injury that has flared up and down since 2004, there have been several times where for several weeks on end, I would have to let another person look after my horses... these were times where I had surgery and had to recover. When I returned, I'd get different reactions from my horses. In 2005 I had my first surgery and when I returned, my mares were both happy to see me alive and kicking... however Bailey was quick to show little interest unless it was food time... she was normally very affectionate, but it was clear she had survived well without me around and was sticking to it... the opposite was with my mare April... she was fairly independent normally, but stuck to me like glue... their reactions were really rather interesting. In 2009 after breaking my leg, I had just sold Bailey so she wasn't in my friend's care for a wee while like my gelding at the time, Evo and my mare Honey were. When I returned, it was clear they were very happy to see me. Although their needs were being met, they felt more comfortable being able to see me, and getting back into a routine.

To this day, my best friend who boards her mare with Honey, will always tell me that when she goes to the paddock without me there, my mare is looking out for me. She's not overtly affectionate like some other horses I've had, but we have an incredibly close bond, and she knows who is in charge of her routine... so having someone else there does make her wonder at least. One time in particular my friend arrived earlier than myself... so when I turned up Honey was crying out happily and rushed over to the fence and waited. My friend then mentioned that Honey had been looking over at where we park the car, waiting to see if I was getting out of it. I can't help but enjoy that feeling, and we all as horse lovers, tend to enjoy seeing our horses, and most of us love knowing they're happy to see us too (even if it's because they see us as food dispensers )

Horses do know "their" people and do have emotions towards them... they react to situations they're in and express how they feel. However OP, your horse is walking all over you and like tinyliny mentioned, best stop the kissing before you get hurt. I'm currently looking after a mare who is very affectionate and kisses me first, and when she first did it I thought she was attempting to get in my face. She craves love and attention, so naturally if I'm not cautious she will overstep her boundaries for it which I don't allow... being realistic about being in love with your horse is vital, for safety reasons.

Ensuring you're the "herd leader" in your relationship with your horse isn't a bad thing... or stating you love him any less... my mare and I don't have kissy moments, we might hug now and then, but I don't get up in her grill about being affectionate to me... and yet no one could ever doubt the undeniable love we both share for one another... that love stems from a great deal of respect too.

I hope you aren't offended by what I have to say, I say it out of concern for safety.

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post #15 of 19 Old 09-02-2012, 08:55 AM
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I know a lot of people that say their horse missed them but they're people that baby and give treats etc.
When I see it I see a horse begging for food. Not a horse that missed a human.
I get a ton of winnies and neighs and they come to the fence every day.

But I know it's because they want their food. I don't scratch and give treats to my horses.
our relax time is a bath or me brushing them off when they need it.
Otherwise, they work for me. And I supply the food.
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Cherie, we must be like minded. The word soothsayer comes to mind.
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post #17 of 19 Old 09-02-2012, 09:21 AM
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Originally Posted by hberrie View Post
I hadn't gone to see my boy in five days (I usually go at least every other). I went out last night and he stuck his nose out of his stall and when I tried to kiss him he snapped at me. Then I walked into his stall and he pinned his ears and actually turned his back on me! I was so hurt. I talked to him and petted him and took him out and brushed him really well. He seemed to really enjoy the rubdown, which he normally just tolerates. Do you think he missed me or am I reading too much into this?
He seemed like he was sulking like a scorned lover. I love my horse because he really seems to have a personality and he is challenging, which appeals to me. Ok. I just re read my words and it sounds like I am literally in love with my horse LOL. Feel free to bash me or make fun of this post!
Yes, I think they miss you if your bonded well. Yes, I think they can express displeasure over things.

That said, my horse would still be bouncing off the walls of his stall if he DARED show me his teeth let alone snapped at me. And to turn his butt in my face would immediately earn him an A$$ kicking of epic proportions. Oh and pinned ears! My horses know that they hadn't better ever give me caca ears......Yeah, he all but gave you the middle finger and a beating, fix his behaviour now or next time he'll give you the beating too. I'd hate to read the post that said you needed dentures because he decided to kick your teeth out or the one that said you needed surgery to replace your nose and the chunk of face he took with it.

OOOOH, just picturing his disrespectful behaviour makes me blow steam out of my ears.

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post #18 of 19 Old 09-02-2012, 09:34 AM
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I think i feel worse than the horse when I leave her in the care of another person while im on holiday. She might prick her ears and give me a look mild interest as if saying 'oh, your back. Are we going fr a ride?!' (she loves her adventures!) but any excitement from my return boils down to the fact I make her life more interesting with rides and stuff, and am her clear leader and she know what to expect when i am around.

Does she resent me when I don't turn up for a week or so? Probably not because she still gets her feed, its just not given by me, and I know for a fact she gets away with cheeky behaivoir, which she obviously loves when Im away. Does she miss going out on hacks and jumping and learning new things? Perhaps. But its probably the routein and structure and security I put in her life she misses the most.

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i think they do
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