Do I have a right to be mad???

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    03-27-2010, 11:11 AM
Angry Do I have a right to be mad???

Ok, just wanted to see if I'm overreacting. My b/o has been out of town for a week, and my hubby and I have been feeding and turning out in the morning and doing stalls and feeding in the evening. I went out this morning and gave all 3 horses their grain. While they were eating I went to put their hay out in the pasture. We've had a lot of rain this past week, so I decided to put the hay piles in the paddock area right outside the barn on the gravel, to give the pasture a chance to dry out for a few hours. I got a text from my b/o after I got home, who was at the airport 4 states away. It was a forward from the girl who is staying in her house while she is gone, saying the horses weren't fed this morning, so she took it upon herself to feed them. Rather than call me(number is in the barn, on my mare's stall, AND in the house, she chose to mess with the horses and text the b/o. This girl knows NOTHING about horses, and filled a 5 gallon bucket with sweet feed(the horses only get oats, the sweet feed is for the goats), and 2 full bales of hay and took it to them in the pasture. The horses had been grained and given hay not 2 hours prior. Am I out of line for being upset??? I called her and explained to her that if any of the horses colic or have any issues because of this, it will be her responsibility to pay vet bills, and asked her to not have ANYTHING to do with my mare. I just needed to rant, lol. Cookies if you made it all the way through!
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    03-27-2010, 11:25 AM
Green Broke
I would be FURIOUS. A) you fed the horses and B) the girl who said they weren't fed knows nothing about horses and gave them wayyy too much of something they don't even eat.

UGH. I hate situations like this. Kindly explain to your barn owner that the girl really knows nothing about horses and shouldn't be allowed to feed them. Maybe she can call upon you to feed the horses next time?
    03-27-2010, 11:25 AM
I think you have a right to be upset. I know I would be upset in that situation. If I were you, I would try to contact the owners of the horses involved, and let them know what happened, just in case something bad should happen (such as colic).

But that's just me.
    03-27-2010, 11:30 AM
Drew, the b/o knows this girl knows nothing about horses. She was just there to house sit and take care of the dogs. I have full responsibility for the horses and goats when she goes away, as that is how I pay for my board.

Doc, I agree 100%. Luckily, it's a small private farm with 3 horses. 1 horse is mine, and the other 2 belong to the b/o. I told her they had been previously fed, and then told her what this girl had fed them. She is NOT happy, however this girl is the girlfriend of the b/o's son, so I see her being around a lot. I explained to this girl that if ANYONE even has a whisker out of place because of this incident, I will not hesitate to call the vet on her dime.
    03-27-2010, 11:43 AM
Green Broke
Wow, I'd be pretty upset! However... in this girl's defense I think she was 'trying' to do the right thing. She thought the horses weren't fed and try to take care of it herself. She just didn't go about it it right. :) What she should have done is called you and asked if you had taken care of the horses and offered to help if for some reason you hadn't. OR called your B/O and told her she didn't think the horses had been fed and waited for instruction. What she needs is a firm talking to about the situation and what to do (not to do) next time.
    03-27-2010, 11:43 AM
Green Broke
Well then she really shouldn't have touched them at all. That makes it all the worse. Ugh.

I hope your horses are ok.
    03-27-2010, 11:55 AM
Thanks guys. This 'girl' is actually 26 years old, and had been given previous instruction to call me if she had any questions at all about anything related to the animals. I spend more time with them that the barn owner, as I am there 6-7 days a week, at least once a day. She was like"well, they looked really hungry". Honey, they're horses...they ALWAYS look hungry!!!! I told her to stay out of the barn n, out of the paddock and pasture, and away from the horses. She has no business on that part of the property whatsoever. I really feel no sympathy for her, as she knew the ground rules before the b/o left. Maybe I'm just mean, lol.
    03-27-2010, 12:00 PM
Oh my gosh. If she knew the ground rules before hand, then she shoud of just left things alone.

Total irrisponsibility on her part and she should definitely be held responsible for anything that occurs!

*cringes* ugh, the thought of that sweet feed being fed to them........

I am more angry for the horses.....I hope nothing happens.
    03-27-2010, 12:07 PM
Thanks Kim. I hope so too.
    03-27-2010, 12:19 PM
Of course you have a 'right' to be mad. It's your prerogative. Feel as you must.

I think, though, you're over reacting. The horses aren't going to colic. If they'd been fed their hay already....2hrs prior as you stated...then they'll be just fine with the amount of grain they were given and the extra hay...the horses are thinking...WOW! Christmas!

The housesitter could of, should of, would of...really, what do you expect of people nowadays? You've had a talk with her, presumably she's learned her lesson...let it go. Chances are if your b/o goes away again, they'll get a different housesitter.

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