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post #1 of 23 Old 04-20-2017, 10:29 PM Thread Starter
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do i sell my horse?

my horse is quite spooky and naughty 70% of the time. the other 30% of the time she is a dream, the calmest most bombproof horse ever.

we have tried EVERYTHING to try and stop her spookiness but nothing is working and riding hasn't been happy in the 2 years i have owned her. i love her with all my heart, but we may have to sell her.

if i sell her, chances are i probably will not get to own another horse (we dont want to go through this again, too much time and money wasted on a horse that is continuously spooky). selling her would mean no more riding for me possibly forever. i could keep on trying but i have been trying for 2 years and got no progress with her. i am stuck on what to do.

do i sell her and feel sad and lonely without her (it would break my heart selling her, even thinking about it), or do i keep on trying and staying unhappy??

i dont want to give up riding. leasing her out is unfortunatly not an option. i would really like some advice.
the only thing about selling her would be me seeing all my horsey friends move on with riding and i will be stuck behind, not able to ride. i would love to keep owning her but i dont think that is possible, i have already moved down a group in pony club because of her spookiness. i need some advice on what to do with her, or some tips on how to let go?

another note is before i owned her i leased a horse for a year who i had to return and it broke my heart i was crying for days and days afterwards. i think that may be why i really do not want to sell my current horse.

thank you, please comment some advice it would help so much! :)
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post #2 of 23 Old 04-20-2017, 10:30 PM
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Why don't you have a trainer?
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Find a trainer or sell and buy a new horse. Why sell and never buy another horse just because one bad experience?
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Why don't you have a trainer?
sorry ill rephrase that, having lessons still doesnt help the spookiness and i only have lessons once every week or fortnight, the other times i ride my horse is still spooky. having lessons with my trainer doesnt really help the issue
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Why don't you have a trainer?
i do, it doesnt really help her spookiness
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Find a trainer or sell and buy a new horse. Why sell and never buy another horse just because one bad experience?
my parents dont want to buy another horse and go through this situation again if that makes sense, and i have a trainer already :)
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I guess it makes sense.... I will be no help. I don't sell... I just keep them forever.
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i do, it doesnt really help her spookiness
Well, take this with a grain of salt as I have not seen your horse in person, but it sounds to me like she has learned to spook to get out of work. Some horses will literally spook, for no reason, randomly and constantly, to get out of work.

If you want to keep her, you should pay a trainer to ride her, and then go back to paying someone to tell you how to ride her. She needs someone VERY experienced to work through this with her. If you do this, make sure you are watching when the trainer rides her, so that you can learn too.

If your trainer is capable, they should be able to ride the horse through it and figure out why she is spooking. It may be that she is spooking to get out of work, it could be tack related, it could be the type of work (ex. does she spook more in the arena vs. trail), it could be just the rider.

I've ridden hot, spooky horses, and with the right rider they don't spook every second. They spook, but not constantly. There is the rare horse that is just that way though.

You should work on learning how to emergency stop, or disengage her hindquarters. You should also try to teach her to spook in place instead of bolt or whatever she does.

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Is she constantly distracted? If she is not paying attention to you but other things and you can't keep her attention, then something maybe irritating her that she finds it hard to focus. Is it getting worse? Are some days better than others?

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Well, take this with a grain of salt as I have not seen your horse in person, but it sounds to me like she has learned to spook to get out of work. Some horses will literally spook, for no reason, randomly and constantly, to get out of work.

If you want to keep her, you should pay a trainer to ride her, and then go back to paying someone to tell you how to ride her. She needs someone VERY experienced to work through this with her. If you do this, make sure you are watching when the trainer rides her, so that you can learn too.

If your trainer is capable, they should be able to ride the horse through it and figure out why she is spooking. It may be that she is spooking to get out of work, it could be tack related, it could be the type of work (ex. does she spook more in the arena vs. trail), it could be just the rider.

I've ridden hot, spooky horses, and with the right rider they don't spook every second. They spook, but not constantly. There is the rare horse that is just that way though.

You should work on learning how to emergency stop, or disengage her hindquarters. You should also try to teach her to spook in place instead of bolt or whatever she does.
yea that makes sense unfortunatly a more experienced trainer will cost a lot more money which we dont really have/ parents are not prepared to 'waste' more money on this. i feel like i tell her off and correct her when she spooks but she does it again and again until i feel bad for telling her off so much or until i give up from correcting her all the time or it becomes a safety issue. hopefully that made sense, but basically a really experienced trainer would be good but we dont have the money (we got a really good well known trainer out once who didnt help, and i have had 3 trainers so far, none of them have helped)
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