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        01-06-2013, 12:54 AM
      #11
    Foal
    I went to a show that was dressage tests. I watched a woman do 2nd level dressage and her seat was horrible. She bounced so badly at the extended trot that you could hear the slap from the other end of the arena. She was convinced that she was doing it right as well. No one could help her because she was so convinced that she knew more than anyone else. Her horse gave it her all even though her back must have hurt.
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        01-06-2013, 12:56 AM
      #12
    Trained
    No point in saying anything when you see someone ride like crap, they just get offended and it's not like they will take your advice and change.
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        01-06-2013, 01:30 AM
      #13
    Trained
    I think they think everyone is staring at their awesomeness.

    I bet that girl is going for some kind of look and thinks she's achieving it.

    We as a society are so geared towards applauding people that don't deserve applause that people end up thinking they're fabulous way more often than they really are. Thing is, no one wants to be "rude" and tell them otherwise. Goodness help you if you speak up to them! They've been applauded so much they'll just think you're jealous.
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        01-06-2013, 11:28 AM
      #14
    Trained
    In agree w alex (as unusual as it might be ;) ). If it were on my own property, I would not hold back speaking up on behave of the mare and address the rough handling. If it were at a barn, I would mention same to the owner. But how some stranger sits their saddle? I wouldn't touch it.
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        01-06-2013, 11:53 AM
      #15
    Weanling
    To everyone who has replied, I think about saying something (as politely as possible) mainly because she may have cut the corners of the horse's mouth from the seesaw action . . . I really wish I could get a closer look though (maybe I'll sneak into the pasture and inspect lol SHHH). Hypothetically, if there are wounds, does that count as neglect?

    Also, I don't know what to do about the barn manager. She has failed to do anything on time or at all. I go to school during the day which I ride at night now and most of the stall lights are burnt out. I told her this three days ago and still they have not been fixed. Same goes for the leak in my horse's stall -- it's not huge but by morning there is about 2 square feet of damp shaving on the ground bellow the automatic water troff

    Also, there is an abandoned horse in the middle barn who has very severe cushings and lays down all day and all night. No one has paid for the horse in over a year so he has no shavings and lays on hard stall mats. The manager has taken no action. Shouldn't the horse be put down out of its misery?!

    Lastly, the manager is an alcoholic. A couple months ago they found her passed out in her truck in front of the barn with an almost empty bottle of something.
         
        01-06-2013, 12:10 PM
      #16
    Banned
    Geez.....I'd be moving out of there.....
         
        01-06-2013, 12:11 PM
      #17
    Foal
    Saw a trainer? On an Arab at the Scottsdale show had horse tied down, hard hands and beating the heck out of her. All I could think of is, where's the ring steward!
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        01-06-2013, 12:40 PM
      #18
    Yearling
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    Originally Posted by 66Domino    
    Saw a trainer? On an Arab at the Scottsdale show had horse tied down, hard hands and beating the heck out of her. All I could think of is, where's the ring steward!
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    I'll second that.

    Once I was at a AQHA show and the warm up arena was pretty full so we were just waiting to get in. As we were waiting I noticed some guy loping around the arena. I think his horse was green, it had to have been.

    Anyways he had his horse in a curb bit without a curb chain or anything. He was cranking his horse's head up (higher than a giraffe) and kicking it in the sides with his spurs, needless to say his horse was bleeding on both sides.

    Not sue but I thought I heard that he was banned from showing that day.
         
        01-06-2013, 12:48 PM
      #19
    Weanling
    I'm not really the type of person to hold my tongue, but there is a time and a place for everything. For example, do you know the girl well? Like have you had conversations with her or spoken to her in the past? Typically I find that people dress certain ways for certian reasons. Like you said, she doesn't need to wear expensive riding pants, but it may be that she doesn't fully understand riding. Does she take lessons? Does she have a trainer? I asked if you've spoken to her before to know if you know any more about her. It could be that she puts every dime she has into taking care of her horse and can't afford lessons, but would like them. Or it may be that she is really that mean and cruel. You can't know until you try talking to her.
    If you see her horse "misbehaving" aka not listening due to improper riding, instead of yelling to her over the arena, wait until she is done riding. Or if you happen to be riding at the same time or in the arena with her, be very kind. This will be easier if you've spoken to her in the past or now. Minor conversations, or even a simple compliment, "oh you horse's halter is really cute!" will make these conversations a littel easier. It is all about approach. Think of her as one of the horses in the pasture that doesn't like to be caught. How would you approach that horse? (I find that comparing people to horses is very helpful for real life situations. XD)
    What I would do is then after talking to her once or twice, or just getting on semi-friendly terms with her, ask her very nicely, "May I make a suggestion?" The majority of people (with some exceptions) will either say yes or ask what. You can then VERY politely suggest that "I saw you riding and I noticed your hands were rather high" (start with one thing at a time, don't hound her about everything). See how she takes to just one thing. Explain to her why it makes a difference, and if she is friendly about it, maybe suggest helping her out next time she is riding. Hard headed people may always blame the horse and never consider they are the problem.
    Like I said, you don't know her and you don't know her situation. Joesmom said that the rider may not listen, but at least then you know you tried. But I am the opposite of everyone else saying keep out. I can't avert my eyes to something horrible. It is completely about approach, just like it is with a horse you are trying to teach. Some methods work for different horses. Just think of her as a horse. ;)

    Side note: I do agree your BM needs to be.....well, things aren't looking good for that barn. I'd do a search around and see if you can find another barn that can offer similar board prices. Or you can try talking to her again. I wish there was some place where you can Report Bad Barn Managers and have them dealt with! Like a court for bad horse people! Haha.

    Keep us posted on everything!!!
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        01-06-2013, 01:39 PM
      #20
    Foal
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    Originally Posted by TheAQHAGirl    
    I'll second that.

    Once I was at a AQHA show and the warm up arena was pretty full so we were just waiting to get in. As we were waiting I noticed some guy loping around the arena. I think his horse was green, it had to have been.

    Anyways he had his horse in a curb bit without a curb chain or anything. He was cranking his horse's head up (higher than a giraffe) and kicking it in the sides with his spurs, needless to say his horse was bleeding on both sides.

    Not sue but I thought I heard that he was banned from showing that day.
    I know what you're talking about. My girl rode hunters off a while and has been working dressage for the past 18 years. I love going to the shows even if its not dressage. Sadly, I've seen abuse at all events. Glad there are still many on the forum who understand the difference between correction and abuse.
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