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        03-20-2012, 05:08 PM
      #1
    Weanling
    Do You Find This Strange?

    I currently have an on-site lease...

    The owner is leasing her horse because she says she has no time to ride, and wants her horse to get regular exercise. OK - fair enough. The owner does get out to ride occassionally, and so I give her a "heads up" each time I am heading out to ride just in case she was also trying to squeeze in a quick ride that day.

    The last several times I have asked her if it was alright for me to ride - she assured me there was no problem...

    But then when I arrive on the scene, there is the owner offering to "help" by jumping up for a quick ride to "demonstrate" a few things with her horse or stepping in when I wanted to work with the horse on the ground.

    Frankly, I find this a little annoying.

    It is her horse. Fine.
    If she wants to ride him - fine.

    But then why enter into a lease agreement in which *I* am supposed to get to ride?

    I have better things to do than drive out to the barn to watch her "demonstrate" her riding skills...

    Has anyone else run into this?
         
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        03-20-2012, 05:10 PM
      #2
    Started
    It sounds to me like she's not happy with something you're doing, and is trying to subtly hint to you that she would prefer you to ride / work with him differently, without coming right out and saying it, probably to avoid hurting your feelings.
         
        03-20-2012, 05:14 PM
      #3
    Trained
    ^^ that is what it sounds like to me too.
         
        03-20-2012, 05:15 PM
      #4
    Weanling
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by alexischristina    
    It sounds to me like she's not happy with something you're doing, and is trying to subtly hint to you that she would prefer you to ride / work with him differently, without coming right out and saying it, probably to avoid hurting your feelings.
    Yes - that could be...

    She hasn't said anything about something being wrong, or incorrect or a problem in any way.

    If that's the case, it would just be easier if she was clear about it - then there would be no confusion
         
        03-20-2012, 05:18 PM
      #5
    Trained
    Sounds like she is worried about something
    Or she really does not want to lease her horse out
         
        03-20-2012, 05:20 PM
      #6
    Weanling
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by Country Woman    
    sounds like she is worried about something
    Or she really does not want to lease her horse out
    That was my first thought - that she is anxious or insecure about leasing him...
         
        03-20-2012, 05:23 PM
      #7
    Trained
    Have you tried politely saying "no thanks"? It could be that she thinks she's being helpful. I know when new people ride my horses I spend a decent amount of time explaining/demonstrating how they are used to being handled in order to eliminate confusion on everyone's part.

    If I were you I'd call her up and straight out ask her if she's worried about something.
         
        03-20-2012, 05:29 PM
      #8
    Green Broke
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by Daisy25    
    Yes - that could be...

    She hasn't said anything about something being wrong, or incorrect or a problem in any way.

    If that's the case, it would just be easier if she was clear about it - then there would be no confusion

    She probably doesn't want to offend you, and finds this an easier way.

    I did this when I had my old school master in lessons, I would occassionaly get on the 'show' how it was done. If people got annoyed, they could take their bad habits and ruin someone elses horse, in my eyes, I'm trying to help, and not be rude about it.. if you get my drift.

    I would rather someone showed me than to say 'get off and go'. She needs you, obviously, but she probably wants to help improve your riding and not have the horse ruined at the same time.

    Instead ASK why she is doing this, and learn from it. Ask her how it benefits and effects the horse. If she can give you a straight answer, then she knows what she's talking about and listen. If she says 'oh we've always done it' research yourself. If she doesn't know, I'd invest in lessons yourself so you can say someone is giving you instruction and told you to do it as A/B/C

    Just my thoughts.
         
        03-20-2012, 05:34 PM
      #9
    Weanling
    Hmmm....OK -

    In my mind, I had been interpreting it more as a "If you were planning on riding today, why did you tell me to come out?" rather than she is trying to correct a problem without mentioning it directly.

    Sounds like we need to have a conversation and clarify a few things...
         
        03-20-2012, 05:39 PM
      #10
    Trained
    Just be honest and clarify what you are saying
         

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