I presume I am in charge. I presume I get to tell the horse what to do, and that I need to train the horse to agree with my point of view. I see the horse as below me in the decision-making process. Mia sees the geldings in her corral - and she believes it is HER corral - the same way. She will not tolerate their 'disrespect'. I will not tolerate hers. When I set foot in the corral, it becomes MY corral.
Do I use the term 'disrespect' very often? No. Nor do I use it with humans very often. But Mia takes personal offense when the geldings don't listen to her, and I take it personally when she does not listen to me. However, I prefer to talk of "training" and "obedience" rather than "bond", "trust", "respect", and "disrespect".
Yesterday, Mia did something she had never done in the 5 1/2 years I've owned her: she flattened the farrier. I was holding her, the farrier & I were talking, and she gave him a shove with her hind leg that sent him sprawling. She then decided maybe she should make a run for it, and nearly knocked me down as she leaped forward. I kept one hand on the lead, managed to spin her around, and then charged into her face. She backed double-time across the corral, turn, and across it again. All the while, I was chewing her out. When I thought she understood my displeasure, we went over to the farrier, who wasn't hurt, and I held her as he guided her leg back on the hoof stand and finished the job.
I had not failed Mia. In 5.5 years, I had never seen her try to remove her foot from a farrier. Nor was I interested in what Mia thought of the farrier's qualifications. She doesn't get a vote. If I want her to stand still and get a shot or get a foot rasped, that is MY business, not hers. And yes, I was offended that she rejected MY will and decided to knock the farrier over...and nearly knock me over. And I can promise you, if one of the geldings acted that way toward her, she would respond with GREAT offense! If a gelding tried to run her over, she'd make him fear death.
The geldings are expected to respect Princess Mia. I expect Mia to respect King Bob...and the King's Farrier!