Join Date: Apr 2008
Location: Gallant, Alabama
Does anyone else have this problem with certain family members?
I'm just curious... does anyone else have a problem with certain family members getting upset when you spend your own, personal hard-earned money on your horses?
My great grandmother is awesome, and I love her to death, but we fight all the time over me buying things or spending money on my horses... and it's not 'frivolous' things, either... she doesn't mind me buying bridles, bits, etc... what she gets upset at me over is when I buy horse-feed or have the farrier/vet out...
Take today, for example... I just got paid after house/dog-sitting for a week and will also be getting my paycheck in about three days, so when I got home I mentioned that tomorrow night I was going to call the farrier to come and take the shoes off my mare and trim both my mare and my gelding who are at home (one of my horses is leased out, so I don't have to worry about her hoof-care). It's only going to cost me about $60-$70 dollars, but my great grandmother went bat*** crazy over it, raising her voice and yelling about how I can't be spending all my money on my horses, etc... that they don't need the farrier, etc... (my mare is two weeks overdue to have her shoes removed and my gelding hasn't been trimmed since the beginning of Summer, though his hooves have just recently grown out enough to need trimmed again).
My response was that I don't spend all my money on my horses and that I know I have a truck payment and an internet payment coming up at the end of the month and I know I am paying my part of the phone bill (long distance calls to the vet), but my horses are my responsibility and I can afford to care for their basic necessities... even if it means I go without something for a while... to which my great grandmother still yelled and griped about for about half an hour...
Anyone else have family issues like this? I'm twenty-four, but live with my great grandmother (who is in her seventies) and help her out a lot, so there's no way 'moving' is an option, lol... Just, how can I deal with this without losing my own temper when she yells and screams at me...?
Sorry for the rant...
Horseshoe Loop Farm: Home of Gypsie (22 y/o TWH mare), Dakota (10 y/o TWH gelding), Codie (18 y/o Walkaloosa gelding) & Harlow (9 y/o APHA mare)