When I first started working with my mare, she was the same way. But it was because she was left alone in her dark stall with no contact for days or weeks at a time. She developed all the mental and emotional issues of an abandonded horse. She would pin her ears, turn her butt towards you and charge whoever went into her stall. Everybody was afraid of her and I can only assume the guy cleaning her stall was not nice to her, mostly out of fear. When I started workig with her I would tie her up to brush her, she would strike, cow kick and was very rude, no respect whatsoever. I didn't give up on her. I would, in no uncertain terms, make it very clear to her that this was unacceptable behavour. She would not pick up her feet, so I would tap her leg with my dressage whip, she would crowd me or push me, tap with the whip. She started to understand I was the leader and she began to mellow out and most of all, trust me. I showed her love, companionship, with me and my other horse, but most of all leadership. A year and a half later, she is a very happy, well adjusted girl. Greets me with ears up and whinny. Sometimes she still gets pushy while brushing, I show her the whip and she stands perfectly still. I believe she likes the fact that I am her leader but knows I will never let harm come to her, she finally feels safe.
Keep working with your guy, but everybody is right, bonding is one thing but he needs a leader, not a buddy. Best of luck.
Last edited by As You Wish; 07-29-2013 at 03:57 PM.