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    06-04-2010, 05:04 AM
Does Molly need more?

Does Molly need more than what I can give?

First off, I know a 12 year old girl and a 8 yo TB mare for a first horse isn't very practical, but whats done is done and I feel I have an unbreakable bond with her. When we first got her we didn't know anything about her except she was Molly an 8yo Tb that was most likely raced. After 6 long weeks I finally saddled her and got on. It was a long process but now, after 9 months I ride a lot. But I mean around the paddock a lot. As soon as we step out on the road, im nervous. I know just riding at the paddocks is boring for her, but im so scared on the road. When I first got her I lead her on the road and she was pretty idiotic. But a month or so a go I rode her with some friend around the quiet roads and all was well. I also rode her to the forest twice and up the sand dunes, and she was pretty good. But for some reason I tense up on the road. Should I start taking it slow?
She always has her TB moments and I think that's what scares me.
As she gets older will she quieten down?

I'm scared im not being fair on her when I ride my friends horse on the roads and beach all the time.

Cookies if you read that! It just suddenly hit me; Am I a total idiot and being unfair? I love her so much and want whats best for her.
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    06-04-2010, 07:10 AM
Green Broke
I have a 12 yo tb x, he was 11 when I got him and haddent been worked properly in about a year. I didnt ride him for weeks either, when I first got him. What really helped me was taking him out on the road.
I think what helps is to go with someone (on horse or foot). I was very nervous the first time, but after a while you get used to it, just keep at it I think and you will gain confidence.
    06-04-2010, 11:00 AM
Do you have someone that can walk with you onto the road and/or lead you? It will give you some peace of mind that there's someone beside you, and be a great experience for you and your horse.
    06-04-2010, 11:11 AM
Woah that sound like me and Ozzy! He was 7yr old tb and I was 13 and he was my first horse and like you I didn't know anything about him just the fact is name was now Oscar and was most likely raced.
Hack out with the more confident horses and riders maybe and keep to the quiet roads if possible. Just relax. If she feels you being nervus she'll wonder why you're being nervous and think there's something to be worried about.
Best of luck:)
    06-04-2010, 05:56 PM
Wow thanks guys!
Yeah I always ride with people when on the road, it makes me and Molly feel much more relaxed and it's safer.
    06-04-2010, 11:06 PM
With age, she will become more level headed, but she will never lose that "TB" quality to her--she'll always have her bird brain moments.

I agree that maybe you need to go out in small groups on the road for awhile with more "been there, done that" riders.

However, the real question is why are you afraid of her silliness out on the road? Is it the open spaces? Do you feel like you don't have control of her? The problem really doesn't have anything to do with you doing something wrong, or her doing something wrong, but its about your confidence as her rider. You'll need to work on that before you can take her out on the road, and then there won't be any problems, regardless of what mood she's in.
    06-05-2010, 12:30 AM
I'm nervous because there are thoughts spinning in my head; What if she spooks at that lawn mower? What if she bolts and I come off? Lots of pretty pathetic thoughts that I can't get rid of.

    06-05-2010, 01:05 AM
Hey, I definitely have those thoughts on my TB too. He was most definitely raced, and more over I've seen him run, and man is he fast! To top it all off I have come off of him, and he's taken off on me twice. However, both of those incidents were my fault, not his. But the one time he did take off I was able to bring him right back to a halt without a problem, and that's what I remember when ever I start getting those thoughts.

What I really recommend is getting lessons on her. Its what I plan on doing with Ice as soon as I have money. Lessons are meant to teach you to be a better rider, and when you're a better rider, you're more confident! (maybe too confident sometimes lol) That way no matter what situation you're in, you'll always be able to have a solution to the problem. "What if she bolts? Well then as long as I keep my heels down and I have good balance, I'll be okay." "What if she spooks at the lawn mower? As long as I'm confident and pretend that it isn't there, she won't give it a second look."

Horses feed largely off of our emotions. If you're tense or nervous, you're going to make your horse think that there's a reason to be tense or nervous. Since you're the leader, they rely on you to tell them what to think and how to act.
    06-05-2010, 11:06 AM
Originally Posted by horsesroqke    
I'm nervous because there are thoughts spinning in my head; What if she spooks at that lawn mower? What if she bolts and I come off? Lots of pretty pathetic thoughts that I can't get rid of.
They are not pathetic thoughts at all. I know many ladies that never ride outside the ring because they have exactly the same fear of being 'out in the open'. They see the ring as their turf, a safe and contained place.

The more you ride, the more experience your horse will get, the more you'll trust her, and you'll both be more relaxed. An 8 yr old is still a young horse and she just needs many more miles.

And keep this in can come off in the ring and get hurt just as easily as in the world. They all hurt the same

Relax, ride her out in the world, and learn and have fun together.
    06-05-2010, 01:15 PM
I also suggest trading horses with someone to go ride out on the road. Seeing Ice behave himself whether from the ground or while someone else is riding helps me a lot.

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