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  • Horse addiction and marriage
  • Horse riding saved my marriage

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    03-29-2012, 05:07 PM
  #11
Weanling
Nope, my horse addiction saved my marriage. Before I got my horse, my husband and I did everything together and believe me, I absolutely adore my husband but after knowing eachother 20 years and being married for 13 of them, we need alone time so about 10 years ago, he got into restoring a classic car and I found myself spending a lot of time alone in the house waiting for him to finish what he was doing and spend time with me. Now that I have my horse, while he is working on his car, I am out at the barn working on my riding :) It's nice to have a place to escape to that is strictly "me time" and I am not breathing down his neck while he's in the garage working under the hood. I think it actually made us love eachother that much more so thank goodness for my horse and my barn time :)
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    03-29-2012, 05:12 PM
  #12
Weanling
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Originally Posted by themacpack    
Not at all - my husband has hobbies that take up a significant amount of his time and can be quite costly, so it is really not an issue between us because my horsey habit is no different than his fishing or gaming or music.

I think that too whenever a new car part shows up at our house during the week. He spends on his classic cars what I spend in board every month. He is currently working on a 57 VW Bug that he picked up a few months ago. He won't miss me much during this summer :)
     
    03-29-2012, 05:13 PM
  #13
Weanling
The horse came after the relationship. When I told him I wanted to buy one, he looked shocked and was silent for a while, but ended up saying, "If it makes you happy." When that horse bucked me off and I broke my ankle, he refused to allow me to give up. He knew how much I wanted the horsey life, and now he enjoys going to the farm to see my current horse, Smoke. They have man-time... Smoke snoozes while Jon brushes him. It's adorable. Bf hopes to have his own horse someday.

So glad I found a guy who tolerates my obsession, and even more than that, a guy who I converted into a horsey person! Muah haha.
     
    03-29-2012, 05:18 PM
  #14
Green Broke
Not now, my husband is into the same things. We both love roping and ranch rodeos. He isn't into showing but he completely supports me in doing so. But we can get along doing those things together. He don't tell me how to ride my horses and I don't tell him how to ride his! We respect each other opinions and pick each others brains, but we don't get pushy with our opinions.
He never complains if I want to spend the money to go ride with a trainer, if anything he encourages me. And I encourage him to do things that I may not be interested in doing. It is all about balance.

Before I was married and dating, it was an issue. I don't think of horses as a hobby it is my lifestyle.
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    03-29-2012, 05:48 PM
  #15
Trained
Never. Everyone I have ever met or gone out with, I tell them immediately the horses will always come first and f they can't accept that, I won't cry over them leaving.
     
    03-29-2012, 05:52 PM
  #16
Yearling
Awww c'mon peeps! Surely there most be someone else on this forum that went out on a Tuesday night after work and bought a horse without first discussing it with their S.O. ? (NOT husband. S.O.)

Am I the only one that did not come with a horse but has had to try and acclimate the other to my newly purchased horse?

On the bright side of things, my dog (who is a terror and I am ready to bury in a shallow hole in the backyard) and my precious kitty are NEVER complained about. I brought those into the relationship and he gladly feeds, pets, and cares for them.

Of course, he is not AFRAID of them.
     
    03-29-2012, 05:59 PM
  #17
Yearling
Nope, not me. I had horses long before I had boyfriends, and all the men I've dated (including the current one) have accepted that I come with a horse. Any guy who would make an issue out of that I would not touch with a bargepole.
     
    03-29-2012, 06:04 PM
  #18
Trained
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Originally Posted by AQHSam    
Awww c'mon peeps! Surely there most be someone else on this forum that went out on a Tuesday night after work and bought a horse without first discussing it with their S.O. ? (NOT husband. S.O.)

Am I the only one that did not come with a horse but has had to try and acclimate the other to my newly purchased horse?

On the bright side of things, my dog (who is a terror and I am ready to bury in a shallow hole in the backyard) and my precious kitty are NEVER complained about. I brought those into the relationship and he gladly feeds, pets, and cares for them.

Of course, he is not AFRAID of them.
Well

Me and my Mom do EVERYTHING without telling my dad. We've bought cars, trailers, tvs, concert/movie tickets, training, saddles....We once brought home two new horses (Costing us around $20,000) and we just threw them in with the others and he never noticed until we told him.
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    03-29-2012, 06:16 PM
  #19
Green Broke
Hahaha I didn't quite go out after work but I called hubby from barn (he was out of town for a week). At the time, I was leasing Duke and they were giving poor lil Hunter away and I felt so sorry for the scrawny little Palomino. It was funny, when I first called him I was like.. hunny???? Uh oh he says. Well its about a horse... By the time he came home Hunter was mine lol. He has been awesome, bought the trailer, bought me a new saddle last year. Built a paddock up at our property so I could bring him with us. Never been a problem. He loves Hunter and when we buy a place locally he will get his own horse.

The dog on the other hand..... She was there first and he hates her. I think he is jealous I dunno. He does walk her after work every day though.
     
    03-29-2012, 06:20 PM
  #20
Started
Blugh. Yes. The "get out and have a hobby away from your boyfriend" was good. At first. But the "getting out" consisted of driving an hour out of Los Angeles and back every time I want to ride. Now I want to move somewhere either closer to the stables or to a place with a barn, but he's stubbornly in love with the city. And I'm stubbornly in love with my horses, lol.
     

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