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Does your horse get in the way of your relationship?

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#1 ·
Does your horse/horses ever cause relationship issues with your partner or loved one due to the shear amount of time these animals need or costs, yes that's a good one (the big critters are rather spendy.) Just curious.
 
#65 ·
My boyfriend is not into horses but has been on mine 2 times (the only 2 times he's ever sat on a horse too!) While I'm not in the greatest financial position, I feel I made a comitment to my horse for life after rescuing him. My boyfriend knew this from day one and says that he chooses his battle and the horse is not one of them and he knows he'd awaken the wrath of his red-headed jersey girlfriend then be alone again lol
 
#68 ·
Nope. Me and my boyfriend are both into horses and have plans to buy a gelding, we often go to the yard together and enjoy the jobs and riding together - I guess that's a good thing about having a partner that loves horses as well. We also have separate hobbies but at least the biggest time consuming hobby we share, and often use yard time to spend together :) gives us something we both love to do!
 
#71 ·
Let just say im slowly converting him to the dark side.... :)


He actaully came with me to buy a saddle at 8 at night, i was shocked! I got him to the point where he said he would be interested in owning one later in life. When we have a house etc. For now he will come out and visit the horse i have and finds him to be a goof (hes got quiet the personality that horse)

Im happy because he likes doing all the farm work so it works out mostly!
 
#72 ·
In ways, but not really. My boyfriend knew I came with horses and they was staying in my life. He really enjoys horses, but getting a place of our own involves him getting a better job because I won't get rid of the horse. It only effects us financially.
 
#73 ·
My husband can take'em or leave'em but knows my passion for them. Though I am surprising him wth a trip out to meet a new born colt tomorrow morning. He wants to get a baby to raise and I think I found a great one in this colt. Then if he agrees we can bring both the dame and colt home till time to wean or leave them there.... Oh the possibilities!
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#74 ·
I have really enjoyed reading all the responses. We are such a diverse group!

When I married Don, I was horseless, and thought I would never attain that dream. He is the reason I have my horses, horse trailer and dream saddle. He knows the enjoyment I get from the horses and the friendships that developed through the horses. We share so many interests, but also have separate interests. Keeps things interesting.

Now, after over 20 years (closes to 30) of marriage, he has decided that he wants to ride with me. Over joyed doesn't quite cover how I feel about it. While he won't ride as often or as long as I do, I am happy that he is willing to share a part of this area of my life.

He never censors how often I ride, but I make sure to spend time doing other things we enjoy with him. I think someone here used the word balance. That's what I strive for in all aspects of my life. I don't want to be one dimensional.
 
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#75 ·
To have successful happy relationship (I've been happily married for 33 years), it takes compromise and balance. Yes my husband does ride & takes lessons with me but he just does it for the exercise and so we do an activity together, is his passion is motorcycles. I have given up horseshows to go a on run with him, he's given up lots so I can keep & show horses. While I love my horses dearly & riding is my favorite thing to do, my husband & family always come first, but it all balances. That is a good feeling.
 
#76 ·
To have successful happy relationship (I've been happily married for 33 years), it takes compromise and balance. Yes my husband does ride & takes lessons with me but he just does it for the exercise and so we do an activity together, is his passion is motorcycles. I have given up horseshows to go a on run with him, he's given up lots so I can keep & show horses. While I love my horses dearly & riding is my favorite thing to do, my husband & family always come first, but it all balances. That is a good feeling.

Wish I could like this 900 times!! :D
 
#77 ·
My husband has his own horse and I actually got him into it so now he is hooked! He loves them. However I am more into horses and it's all I ever think about. I THINK sometimes he gets maybe slightly annoyed because he wants to go do other things but all I want to do is ride but he understands.
 
#78 ·
My husband complains ...... but he knows the boys come first! They have to the are dependant on me for their welfare. I work . He works. We both have hobbies and we have our own money. I think we would be insane without our hobbies. He does the odd poo pickup and did feed them when they were in the ""backyard"" .
I have loved the stories.
 
#79 ·
Well, unlike some other posters, I have never been able to get my husband into horses.:-( He loves them as if they were "dogs", but other than that - no interest. He is really good about helping me out with them. So, no complaints there. But, to be honest, I really wish he were as interested as I. So, in that sense..yes, it really gets "in the way".
 
#80 ·
I am actually in the process of breaking things off with my s.o. of 2.5 LONG YEARS because he is unsupportive of my horse (that i bought last august). He always complains about my 'hay burner' and how much money and time I spend with him. But its no big deal when HE goes to the casino and blows 200 bucks twice or more a month. Doesent help that since I have gotten him, every time we would get into a disagreement he would threaten to take my boy to the sale barn. I have moved back in with my dad, and moved him to his aunts barn who will keep him no matter what for a small fee every month. I am very envious of all of you that have husbands, fiances and boyfriends that support their passion for horses. Hopefully someday I will be able to be as lucky!
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#84 ·
I gave up horses before I married my husband.

He knew I had boxes of ribbons and trophies in the attic.

Once in a while I would say something about my show gelding.

In the past year or so I was thinking about getting three broodmare mares again.

This spring his CPA told him he needed another write off.

I said horses....the CPA said fine.

My barns will not be finished until July.
 
#85 ·
I've never had a relationship problem because of my horses, I had them long before I started dating my boyfriend and he knows that my life pretty much is centered around them. He isn't a huge horse fan but he comes to shows every now and again and has come to the barn a few times. Honestly without riding or even being around horses I get cranky so I imagine we would have a whole lot more problems if I had to give up my horses.
 
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