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post #21 of 85 Old 03-29-2012, 06:24 PM
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I had horses before i married and no they dont get in the way of our relationship.He knew when he married me horse was part of the package. He does golfing and fishing so he spends time away doing those things. Plus he works late because of job so when iam out riding hes not home any way. He helps fence build barns and unload hay and even puts out hay bales in winter for me. Once in a while he grips about the horses but he knows they are my life and hobbie. Plus i have a 14 year old daughter that rides with me shes just as horse crazy as iam. In the summer my daughter and i are out in the barn till 12am or later we like to ride at night. I hope when my daughter leaves home he will take up riding other wise i will be riding alone. Iam lucky we have our own place with some land so my horses are out my back door. If i had to board i would only have one horse.
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post #22 of 85 Old 03-29-2012, 07:14 PM
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Every guy always knew I came w/a horse (or more).
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post #23 of 85 Old 03-29-2012, 07:46 PM
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i had my horses long before i met my boyfriend, but my sister was taking care of them full time. I moved away for college (and met my bf there) and would only go home every few months or so. When i graduated i moved back home and took full responsibility for of them.

We visit each other often but it's still a tough long distance relationship. Made tougher by the fact that I don't want to ever leave my horses. It's not that i miss them exactly lol, i just feel so guilty. We don't have a run in so they are stabled at night. I know someone who will feed them but nothing else really... so they would likely be stabled all day. They are well behaved horses but they test people, and the only person i could get to turn them out is not very experienced and lets them walk all over him x__x

If i ever decide to take a trip to go see him, I'm stressing the whole time and i usually only end up staying a couple days. I like it better when he can visit me instead. We do end up arguing about how much time i need to spend with them.
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post #24 of 85 Old 03-29-2012, 07:48 PM
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Dog was already there, and the horse I bought after we started dating. My bf is completely non-horse, is scared of Leo, and was also a bit scared of my old dog. But as long as it makes me happy, it's all good with him.
He's bored out of his mind at the barn, but will patiently videotape for me if I ask him. I think the fact that he was there for the moments that are so important to me (e.g. getting Leo) makes him feel included.
It goes both ways, I spend the occasional afternoon at the airfield taking pictures of planes for him and patiently istening to conversations about engines...
I agree that having time to ourselves and doing what each of us enjoys is very important, and I actually don't think I'd even want a guy that's 100% interested in the same things as me. We ARE two separate people after all...
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post #25 of 85 Old 03-29-2012, 09:31 PM
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haha my hrose gypsy actually caused me and my ex to break up. i was dating him before i got her and he got mad that i spent so much time with her. [before i got her i had scout and was riding 2-8 horses a day so its not like it was a surprise]. i told him if he didnt like it he could get out and he did. never regretted it for a second. my current boyfriend isnt horsey, but loves gypsy and he knows if he wants to have me as his gf he has to put up with her and me talking about her =]

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post #26 of 85 Old 03-29-2012, 09:53 PM
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I had a horse when Honey Darling Precious and I got married. 6 months later I lost my job in economic downturn of the early 80's. Horse went to my brother in law. I was a sahm for years then went to work as the kids got older. Three and a half years ago I told HDP I was getting another horse (mind you, the man golfs, loves to play blackjack at the casinos, has a 2003 100 Year Anniversary Harley Davidson Heritage Softail at the time and now has a pool table and plays pool tournaments) and he said No Yeah...I wasn't asking sweet cheeks....I was just letting you know what I was going to do.

He had a few hissies but went with me looking for a horse. A few more hissies but he rode Red more than me at first. I bought him a horse 5 months later and we now ride together. We go horse camping with a group every month but I pay for all horsey expenses and spend way more time with the horses than he does.

Horses are NEVER going anywhere ever again. I was without them for 26 years and NEVER stopped wanting one.

If he still had a problem with it, it would be HIS problem and I wouldn't make it mine. My horses are my only "indulgence" and not one that I am giving up no matter what!!!

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post #27 of 85 Old 03-29-2012, 11:00 PM
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I was married in Jan of 09, I was horseless at the time. Now i'm a stay at home mom with very few friends. Hubby got a new job in July. I started talking about wanting a horse to get me out if the house more, and give him more me time ( with no friends I was always wanting his attention. So when Paddy came up for sale around Christmas time, there was no argument, we found the cash for him and hay. It was a great anniversary gift. Since then, he has bought himself a used truck ( for hauling hay you know ) and a quad with a plow blade, so he can clean the pasture.... And he actually comes at feeding time when he isn't working, and he cleans the pasture and helps out way more then I thought he would. A horse has helped our relationship out, a little so far, but in the long run, I think immensely. he still has his hobbies, but now I have my own. And I love him for it!
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post #28 of 85 Old 03-29-2012, 11:04 PM
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Nope, relationships get in the way of my horse ;)
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post #29 of 85 Old 03-29-2012, 11:22 PM
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My husband is not horsey, and he doesn't really like them a great deal either. He tends to worry about me, and will only come to the barn when I need help.

However he knows that my horse makes me happy, and he wants me to succeed in my riding goals - so he supports it 100%.

I'd never have to choose between my husband and my horse, ever.
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post #30 of 85 Old 03-29-2012, 11:25 PM
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Nope...DH knew going into the relationship that the animals were there to stay. He is not into riding horses though. He does help with chores happily though and never complains of the cost. He has his hobbies and I have mine. They both cost a bit of money but we are always honest about what is spent where.
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