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post #1 of 21 Old 06-22-2012, 11:58 AM Thread Starter
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Question Don't you just hate barn politics/soap operas?

Hey all,
Just wondering if anybody else out there hates the drama that happens at a lot of barns. I can't stand it, my old barn I liked because it was like being in a group, everybody was polite and took care of their own stuff, even though everybody was different ages and rode different horses, disciplines etc. everybody was friendly or at least civil to one another, and helped each other out. The barn I'm at now [I'm looking for another] is just ridiculous. there's way less people and horses but all the spats and arguments and drama is unbelievable. Of course, there's one person who it's mainly stemming from but it looks like she's here to stay. Of course there were a FEW issues at the old place but NOTHING compared to here. It's too much, I mean, I never know if someones going to speak to me when I say hi or who's fighting with who and who's not speaking to her. Unbelievable. And the horses end up getting brought into it also.

I really don't know what makes the atmosphere at this barn so different and I'm wondering who has the drama issue at their barn and who doesn't? I'm sure it can't just be mine, right???lol

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post #2 of 21 Old 06-22-2012, 12:15 PM
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In a word. Yes.

That's why (except very rarely when I want a horse in training or I need foaling stalls and have to board at a bigger barn) I try to rent complete private facilities that the just owners don't need.

It is wonderful to know when you get back everything is still as you left

It's just peace and quiet and me and the horses! :)

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post #3 of 21 Old 06-22-2012, 12:25 PM Thread Starter
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That's nice. Peace, quiet, and horses, what more could you want!!!
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post #4 of 21 Old 06-22-2012, 12:26 PM
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i put no because i dont have to worry about barn drama ...i am quite lucky in that department :)
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post #5 of 21 Old 06-22-2012, 12:26 PM
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I was at a barn for years when I was younger that was perfect. Everybody was helpful, we had bbqs just to hang out, the drama was minimal and the horses were fat and happy. Then our trainer decided to move, and we all went with her to this huge concrete prison looking stable that was so expensive it turned my parents off to horses forever. Within a week of being there, our tight group of friends had scattered and become cliquey and began a total social war. It ended in me selling my horse and not riding for two years, another girl being asked to leave for her attitude, one of the parents sued the BO and I'll never do full board again. It was a horrible experience that all could have been avoided.
The barn that I'm at now has movie night every friday, A monthly fun show for the whole neighborhood to ride in, and there's always a caravan of trailers headed to some park or another, Everybody's part board and helps each other out. When I first moved there, and my partner wasn't feeding my horse, they threw her hay every night until my partner left. Then they came to ask me what had really been going on. They had only met me twice, and they had my horses back, which means a lot to me.
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post #6 of 21 Old 06-22-2012, 12:32 PM
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....exactly why I board at a small facility. They are very personal, take great care of the horses, and there are only 3 other boarders (two of which are never around) and ALL of which are respectful of my area. Since they aren't huge, there's only one person taking care of my horse so I know things are done right, and the barn is THE cleanest barn I've ever seen.
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post #7 of 21 Old 06-22-2012, 12:33 PM
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I think this is one of the top 5 reasons for many horse owners to keep their horses on their own property. It's insane! I live on a small private road, everybody knows everybody. It's just like boarding and I hate it! People are always in your business and watching you over the fence/walls. Thank god we're leaving this dreadful place!

When I did board and I was new to horse ownership, I had a woman get in my face because I wasn't yet my horse's herd leader. I was still gaining his trust and respect... Some people just should keep their mouth shut. :)
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post #8 of 21 Old 06-22-2012, 12:42 PM
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As long as barn drama doesn't involve me then as far as I'm concerned it's just entertainment. My current place has zero drama. My old place had a fair bit even though the barns motto was "a drama free community". My current place doesn't have a proper barn - its all field board - so people can't congregate and I think that's why there's no drama. Everyone is spread out so to get into someone's business you have to go out of your way to.
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post #9 of 21 Old 06-22-2012, 12:55 PM
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I'm dealing with some drama right now as my horse is in the middle. This all started before I got her but she's at the same place. But this drama is not made up it is a real issue that is turned into drama because some people just cannot admit when they were wrong or they just didn't know something. If you don't know, just say that instead of making up some **** story that ends up causing everyone problems.

I will never switch barns as I love the BO and BM and they are great. And I feel bad knowing my horse is the cause of these problems, even if the reasons are from before I got her and out of my control.

I believe some people just need to make drama. I try to be friendly to everyone and stay out of someone's business if they didn't ask my opinion (which is a huge problem some people have).
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post #10 of 21 Old 06-22-2012, 01:00 PM
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I'm really glad to have my horses at home.

I put up with that garbage for four and a half years at my boarding stable. It was awful. And it was mostly caused by one person. Amazing how one person can manage to ruin everybody's barn time. The BO was a real piece of work, too. It's sad, because the barn is supposed to be your safe place. Glad you're getting out of there. :)

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