I was talking to my grandmother today, and we got on the topic of my friends... specifically my horseeback-riding buddies. I have one friend who is my age, but I feel like I have much more common sense with the horses than she does a lot of the time.
Here's some of the things we talked about...
She got mad at me the other day for not being able to go to a tack store. This tack store is a fairly long way away and I've only had my liscence for a little over a year and still get very nervous when driving, though I'm almost twenty. My grandma has said that she doesn't want me driving that far because I've already had one wreck and been backed into. As I live ith my grandmother, I respect her rules and will follow them. I told my friend this and she almost blew up on me. She's my age, and won't get her liscence because she 'has people to take her places'.
She wants to ride with me, but we live 3 miles away from each other. Not too far... but normally when we ride, I would like to meet in the middle. Half the time, she won't do it... she wants me to ride all the way to her house and then ride back towards my house with her without giving me time to give my horse a break. Then, when she gets ready to go home, half the time she expects me to ride all the way back to her house with her.
She tried to convince me to ride to the local tack store with her... on horseback. Her mare is high strung and more nervous than my 'steady eddie' horses. To get to the tack store, we'd have to get on an extremely busy highway for about thirty minutes. I'm not going to put my horses in that danger. Sorry... Plus, I'm not allowed to ride on the highway and neither is she. Sure, we're almost twenty, but we both still live with our guardians... ger parents and my grandma... as long as we live with them, we should respect them and abide by their rules.
She wanted to ride to a friends house... normally, this wouldn't be a problem. But this guy is a breeder and has four stallions pastured around his house... two are breeding stallions, one is a youngster (four years old) and one is an oldie... we were both on mares at the time, and the stallions owner (our friend, the breeder) has asked us to not ride our horses to his house (we never have ridden our mares up there, he just wanted to make sure we knew that) because his stallions would get antsy. (I have ridden my gelding up to his house, but only when he asked me to once because he wanted to give me something). She tried to convince me to ride up there with her when my mare was in heat, saying that it would be ok because I've ridden my mare with him when he was riding his stallions before. I was like 'no, those times me and him rode together with my mare and his stallions was when he asked me to help him to train his young stallion to ride with a mare and not get antsy. He asked me because my girl wouldn't get upset if his stallion got upset'. She got mad and went home.
Another thing... she has this Quarterhorse who is very disrespectful and has tried to intentionally hurt her before... she wants me to come down and ride him with her riding her mare... even though he's not safe to ride. I tell her 'no' and she gets mad at me.
She also wants to go riding with me a lot, when she knows that my horses either don't have shoes or I can't ride for some reason. I give her valid reasons why I can't ride... my horses don't have shoes, I'm trying to get their weight back up, I'm sick, I have to help my grandma... each time I can't go, she gets all mad at me like I'm lieing to her. It's not my fault... but if I'm sick or something, I'm not going to feel like riding, I'm sorry.
Anyone else have a friend like this? This girl has been a very close friend of mine since middle-school... and this attitude only started two years ago when she got her own horse. I've dealt with it for that long and I'm about sick and tired of it...